Actually Jen, that doesn't surprise me at all. There's a lot of freepmail flying back and forth. I've met some Calvinists I can respect and with whom I can have a civil discussion, even in our disagreements.
And yes, to paraphrase Hagrid, there are many times and Arminian will say something an I'll say "He shouldn'ta said that..."
Yeah, and I know a few good Arminians. However, I have this slight Arminian-aversion since the pastor at our old church had, er, doctrinal errors and I had to have super-sensitive Calvinist shields on all the time... I'll get over it soon with the help of nice people like you!