A question that could well be asked of Alec Baldwin, or any of the Hollywood crazies who insult us all at the Academy Awards. I do not remember if you were watching how LOTR did on Oscar night, but it was pretty revolting for those of us who were watching (and not just because we lost Best Picture, Best Director, and Best Supporting Actor, and had to watch Gandalf making a spectacle of himself in the audience.)
When our 14 yr. old daughter saw Ian McKellan with his 'boy toy' at the Oscars, she asked who it was. I told her it was his 'boyfriend' with a big emphasis on the BOY. She just rolled her eyes. She had already read that Ian was homosexual, she just thought it was kind of tacky of him to act the way he did that night.