I appreciate your input. I try not to broadcast my past, and only mentioned it in this context as a balance point for what is traditionally considered a "male problem". I'd say I'm pretty much over it after this much time...for 6 years, I was too hurt to even think about another relationship. I don't dwell on it, and I do try to project confidence and self-assuredness. Your points are well taken, and indicate some wisdom beyond your years (although I don't know your age). My experience in the last 5 years of dating is that there are a lot of ladies out there who haven't got a clue, and are their own worst enemies.
And, to set the record straight, yes, I did share some blame in the breakup of my marriage...my sin was one of taking her for granted, and not paying attention to the small things. I know better now. I cheated once on her, after the 3rd time she cheated on me and it was purely for revenge, to make her feel what I was feeling...stupid idea. The only person I hurt was myself, and I shot my own self-esteem all to hell by doing that. Up to that point, I could claim grave injustice done to me, but afterward, I was no better than her...I will NEVER make that mistake again!