[discostu]

Oh absolutely. You've got to try to save the marriage first. One of my problem with people that stay together for the kids is that they usually don't try to save the marriage, they begin approaching it as a prison sentence, just serving time til the last kid goes to college. To me you swore before God that you'd make this thing work, before walking out the door for the last time you better be ready to look Him in the eye and say "I tried, I tried hard" (full disclosure, I'm an atheist, but God is a useful concept from which to hinge morality, I've found it best to believe in Him when contemplating the hard parts of life), if you're not then get back in there.

[strictlyaminorleaguer]

Well said.

[Canticle_of_Deborah]

I don't know how to say this because it will probably come out wrong, but that's pretty amazing to me that a person who identifies as atheist has such a moral head on his shoulders. I mean, if I was an atheist, I would be the most evil, homicidal, bi&%h on the planet. That sounds bad but true. Belief in a Divine source is what keeps me on the path. My hat's off to you, especially for your honesty. I think I just opened myself up to flaming, YIKES!!