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Why do men cheat on their wives?
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Posted on 02/23/2002 6:23:46 PM PST by Hillary's Lovely Legs
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To: Cardinal Ratzinger
Now, I have been married many years, and I have had sex with women other than my wife since we married, but I have never cheated on my wife. Unlike men who have been manipulated by feminazis and liberals into thinking any sex with women other than their wife is wrong, I realize that "cheating" is much more than having sex with another women. Hehe...
To: Hillary's Lovely Legs
There are a wide variety of reasons. While I don't intend to defend adultery or infidelity (I oppose them on Christian grounds), here are a few possibilities which stand out from the great anthropological safari of modern marriage. Having sex with the same person regularly can become routine and less stimulating. Some women also have limited orgastic capacity or potency and this declines more with age. Wives and husbands after a few years become aware of each other's faults and imperfections, this can decrease the sexiness of their relationship. There are women who use sex as a weapon linking all sorts of contingencies on how often they will make love to their husbands. This can become very annoying to the husband.
Sometimes the husband is more sexually adventurous or becomes so later in marriage. The wife is less interested or does not learn how to make love more enthusiastically. People have sexual cycles. As one spouse's energies begin declining, the other may look elsewhere. Marital problems are also linked with aging. The hormonal changes women begin experiencing as they approach menopause are obvious examples.
The genuine "love" and "affection" can also decline or disappear from a marriage. We are fallen beings and our love lives are not unaffected by this. Generally speaking, sex in a genuine loving relationship is better than without that caring.
There is also the "ball buster" syndrome of wives who henpeck their husbands. That FOX series "Married with Children" exhibits a classic, if campy and farcical, variation of this. Never do this. I have seen women who trash their husbands verbally or argue with them senselessly about every nutty topic. "Denial of affection" takes many forms and it is one of the logical legal grounds people find for divorcing. Tragic, but true. If they don't have a firm commitment to family values and raising children in a loving environment, all of these imperfections and inadequacies can take over and destroy the marriage. Particularly if either spouse is not grounded in a sound moral system and or is not faithfully dedicated to their spouse in a spirit of charity and mutual respect. If love, respect, and morality begin disappearing from either spouse's soul, you are going to have BIG problems.
Whether a husband "cheats" will also depend on his own moral character and what kinds of sexual attitudes he learned from his father, peers, and from the secular culture. It can also depend on what kinds of femininity and styles of womanhood, motherhood, etc., he has been exposed to. There are countries in Europe, for instance, where greater elegance in femininity is more regularly apparent than in America with our growing "Hillary Syndrome" and butch careerism among females. American television, popular culture, and the feminist movement have done a wicked job of stripping womanhood of many of its charms and mysteries. Women, like men, are subjected to systematic moronization by the unending waves of secular humanist propaganda and disinformation.
And, of course, younger women can seem more appealing as one's wife ages depending on her health. Both spouses have to accept mortality and the aging process, realizing that sex is after all finite.
There are also some rather familiar reasons which lead to adultery which ought to be directly obvious.
To: Doctor Stochastic
So, that means one is cheating and the other is what? Homewrecking? Yeah, pretty much.
To: nobdysfool
Is that's the kind of woman you want, that's the kind of woman you need to look for. It always seems that men are attracted to the women in the pretty packages, the ones who will sleep with them on the first dates, and then wonder why she cheats. Well, we already know she's easy.
If more people would focus on the long term, they would marry the people that are of quality and who also want to be there for the long haul, not just for one night.
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To: Gabz
#9 IS THE REAL REASON MEN NEVER GROWN UP!
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To: Thorn11cav
You know you've sort of proved my comments about monogamy. It's usually guys like you, older and very sexually experienced, who make the claim that they have now see the light and realize that monogamy is an ideal. You can say that experience has taught you the truth...finally. But I would say that experience has gotton it out of your system. I think men need a period of out and out debauchery to truly understand and accept monogamy.
To: mamelukesabre
But I have dated a few women that would make most any man want to find someone else.
Yeah, well, I dated each and every one of their brothers...!
To: Argh
What do women want of men?
Wealthy and mute! (lol)
To: Cardinal Ratzinger
I would be fascinated to know if this person was serious or just messing around (so to speak) with us... :-)
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02/24/2002 7:07:49 AM PST
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krb
To: Argh
Yep... that's me... and I like live theater, travel, museums, art, real Italian food, I hate sports and frankly and honestly I'm probably one of the best looking individuals you'll ever see... and so on.. and I'm not gay. Trust me. Women don't really want those things. I know that this horse has been beaten to death... but what women want... really want... is far different than what they THINK they want.
Women don't want men that they perceive may be better than they are. Women want men with obvious flaws... and that have serious a**hole tendencies. And I don't know why.
Yes Yes, go ahead women of this forum... tell me how wrong I am! :) Keep in mind I'm talking about a particular generation of young women. You see, like men, women only learn from experience. Under 30, women do want the a**hole. ... now that I've finally broken the 30 barrier I have women coming out of the woodwork (not pursuing it though for stated reasons). I haven't changed much, I think the age of the women I'm around has. Once your 30, being a "nice" guy has value... under 30 you aren't worthy to shine their shoes. I'm sure you all can understand that being dissed in youth because of the same traits that they now find attractive... is disconcerting and frankly disgusting. So to the women out there... yes men can be shallow... but women are just as shallow...just not as shallow based on appearance.
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To: Thorn11cav
Of the 20+ or so divorces I am familiar with in detail in the affluent suburban community we grew up in, I would say aging had something to do with most of them. The men left the wives around the time they hit 40 or so usually for younger women. This does not explain every divorce or every situation of adultery but it does fit a basic pattern of differences in male and female biology. You are right that the intellectual personality and cultural level of awareness of women are part of their attraction and more stimulating in many cases than a bimbo's somatic assets if she has nothing interesting to talk about. And affection is after all more than genital gymnastics.
To: WhyisaTexasgirlinPA
Well, I didn't want to be PERFECTLY honest! I once saw a great bumper sticker on a beat-up little car in Montreal being driven by a young woman. It said, "Rich?? - I'm single!!"
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posted on
02/24/2002 7:14:08 AM PST
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Argh
To: StolarStorm
I noticed a change in attitude when I got over 30 too, maybe more women nearing their sexual peaks were giving me more opportunities. My list was meant to be partly funny and was based on what women SAY they want, and as you seem to know, what they say is often a load of hooey. I suspect they're not happy unless they've got something to bitch about to their girlfriends!
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02/24/2002 7:18:24 AM PST
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Argh
To: Argh
LOL..
To: Barnacle
Where's the fun in that? ;)
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