Why do men cheat on their wives?

Ask Dr Gaylen ^

[Don Myers]

bttt

[Double Tap]

I'm not bitter, and I have a pretty good sense of humor.

What you were doing wasn't humor, it was disrupting a thread by given false information meant to tweak people to respond. Don't do that if you wish to be taken seriously in the future when it might matter to you.

[Canticle_of_Deborah]

I have a friend who likes to date women who are as he puts it "solid 10s". We've had this conversation many times. He comments that "after a while, the looks wear off and they are like everybody else." He wonders what else is there besides looks. He is finally starting to understand that it takes more than superficial attraction to make and maintain a relationship.

[strictlyaminorleaguer]

Huh? I guess the "fellow" wasn't necessary, but before I learned her post was a "joke," I thought it was a very unfair view of women.

[Doctor Stochastic]

So, that means one is cheating and the other is what? Homewrecking?

[FITZ]

For example (my situation... and yes I'm still faithful), I've had a very difficult marriage.

This puts a different slant on what you had written earlier about serial monogamy. Some marriages don't work out too well ---but most people don't enjoy divorce and most would prefer a long term but happy marriage. Even in bad circumstances, loyalty, honor, and compassion are traits humans tend to have including men which infers long term monogamy is natural.

[CyberAnt]

Are you making some kind of personal declaration??

[WhyisaTexasgirlinPA]

LOL... I was just joking ... didn't mean to offend... I'm not the sentence structure police! lol

[LowOiL]

Hey latecomers, please read my post 183. It took me too long to type to be overlooked. Comments welcome...

[strictlyaminorleaguer]

Well, actually, so do I. However, I think that it's way too easy for people to get out of marriage because they "don't want to be with" the spouse anymore. Others on this thread (myself included) see marriage as a vow one takes before God and community to be with that person in sickness, health, etc. You are entitled to believe otherwise, but try to understand that others here take marriage seriously for good reason.

[CyberAnt]

Say what??? ROTFLOL??

[discostu]

I'm not seeing anybody here saying people should stay together in a disfunctional relationship (way too many divorcees on this thread for that). The message here is if the marriage is dead bury it, don't cheat on it.

OH, and for the love of God DO NOT STAY TOGETHER FOR THE CHILDREN. Nothing screws kids up more than being raised in a loveless marriage. I was the product of a divorce, my wife was the project of a marriage that stayed together for the kids. Took me years to teach her that marriage didn't have to mean the end of happiness (our first few years together were an adventure) every few months another what if from her screwed up childhood would occur to her, she wouldn't mention it until it had driven her to nuttiness then I had to difuse the mess. Other people I know raised in similar circumstances have gone through the same thing, most are afraid of any form of emotional commitment because their experience says commitment equals misery.

Another factor is that if you stay together for the kids you'll begin to resent them unconsiously, and they'll pick up on this. And that hoses the kid up to. They don't understand what's going on, all they know is their parents are miserable and seem to blaim them for it, so they accept responsibility for it and carry the guilt for years.

[CyberAnt]

Say what??? Oh brother!

[strictlyaminorleaguer]

That's okay, I'm not offended in the least (good joke, in fact). If I sounded irritated, it's just that my neck hurts from my chain being pulled.

[Don Myers]

I think that one reason why both men and women cheat on their spouses stems from the common lifestyle of bedding anything that moves before marriage. How is a marriage license going to stop someone who is used to multiple lovers, sometimes numbering in the hundreds, when the marriage starts getting a little dull?

[lil679]

I don't Know why people cheat but when I get married and if my husband decides to cheat on me he will have another thing comming

[Canticle_of_Deborah]

Another good post! I lived what you described. You're on a roll tonight, keep going..........

[StolarStorm]

Well if that were really the case I don't believe that divorce rates would be so high. I'm not trying to come off as a saint... but most men wouldn't and haven't put up with as much as I have. What are the divorce rates currently? Something like 50%?