Having had the quality 1970s - 1990s BMWs I feel your pain.
Is your wife way younger than you?
No, a year older. She’ll be happy enough once we get everything set and leave it that way. As it is, every drive is proving to be an adventure of pop-ups and suggestions.
Just now, I as a passenger, set my arm down on the center arm rest and my fingers touched the center console (which has several touch switches), the driver’s dashboard went black except for the speedometer. No idea what I might have touched. Fortunately we were close to home; hopefully it will go back to her pre-set setup when we start it again.