Posted on 04/04/2026 6:03:41 PM PDT by Duke C.
Key Takeaways-
One in three U.S. adults (ages 18–34) now live with their parents. The share ranges from 44.1% in New Jersey to just 12.3% in North Dakota, revealing a wide geographic divide. High-cost coastal and Northeastern states dominate the top of the ranking.
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Last place I wanted to live was with my Parents!
I tried to to leave home at 16 but Dad
threatened to have me declared a Habitual
run away.
I joined the military at age 17 and never
looked back.
Been married almost 49 years now. I can’t
visit “home” now as both parents
are now dead.
I reluctantly built my daughter a house but
Her husband decided he wanted to return
to his home town. So they rent and live
in a “sewer”. Not a real one of course,
just my description of how much
their choice of living location has
degraded over the years.
I have an multi generational extended “family”
that wants to be with us. We are not “blood”
relatives. It works out just fine.
They take care of us and don’t take advantage
of us. My daughter can’t come back to the house
I built for her. Our Hanai family lives in it.
Funny how God works.
I think it is a function of of co dependency on the part of many parents these days. Not necessarily the child.Mom’s today can’t break ties.
Addicts.
If you think of it as them bellying up to a virtual bar you might see the issue differently.
I notice tbe illustration is of a white male.
I knew people like that.
Smoking was toxic.
But it also was so fun with a myriad of rituals.
Gettin up at 5 am to drink perked coffee, watch the sun rise at the camp, lister to WBZ, and smoke with my father in law was a vaction ritual
Kinda hard to bring a date home....
Mom & dad you need to put on your noise cancelling headphones again....
I have cousins who have had their 2 sons live at home to at least 30 to save money. They live in Los Angeles.
They should be able to buy a townhome but the payment is one big cost, the HOA fee is too high plus the utilities are too high.
They would need at least $4,000 a month just to get by for a $450,000 townhome. A separate home is at least $900,000.
I know a former women co-worker who has 18 and 20 year old teenage girls doing the same to save money plus as backup as the mother has to worry about losing her job as the office building we all worked in closed last sept. Her dept is linked to the east coast main office so she can work from home as the others in the building lost their jobs.
It’s 1% higher in Florida than in California. Maybe the Florida housing market is to expensive - unless you’re an older person willing to live in an HOA age 55+ only community.
We had a large family. One of my earliest memories is of my grandmother pulling chairs up to the sink so my cousin and I could sit on our knees to be able to reach it to do ALL the dishes after a family holiday gathering.
Ours were all out by 20 at the latest. They are fine, independent and debt free.
Some friends who raised their kids in almost the same circumstances as us still have two of their three at home. One is about 34, the other is 29.
The 29 year old has a good job, the other is sort of a perpetual student who seems to know more than everyone else he’s ever known.
I’ve told our friends that they should have kicked them out long ago. Their actions are stifling their kids maturity.
“Oh, but apartments are too expensive.”
My reply. “That’s too bad. My kids all rent and they pay more than we do for our mortgage. They find a way or they make a way.”
Get a roommate, or two. Get a better job.
Older than 22 or so, unless there are extenuating circumstances, like providing health care to a parent, there are only two words to say. “Get Out!”
Kids born in ND do not live with their parents because they moved to a warmer state.
Our son lives with us not because he doesn’t have money but because he wants money. He works in construction.
My oldest sister never left home, stayed with my parents till the end. She had a job, could drive, could go anywhere she wanted.
they never had any privacy, she never learned independence.
She was 60 when our mom died, and that was her first go at laundry, meals, ect.
She could never make a decision w/o consulting my sisters and bros in law.
No thanks. Go fly, birdie.
Midwest is more affordable in many ways.
Lovely story of you living with your parents.
I agree. We sold our house and purchased an abandoned High School to convert to a house. All of our children (5) and our grand children have several thousand sq ft of there own under “our” roof. That was our intention and it has been wonderful
English is a fairly precise language.
There is a big difference between “living with” and “living off”.
“Living off” can go off the rails to Nick Reiner territory.
Lived in affluent Fairfield County CT for a number of years. Youngsters brought up with affluence have a hard time adjusting when they go out on their own ... they want to maintain the lifestyle they had growing up but find out their beginning salaries in the real-world won’t allow it. Their snobbish attitudes take a major hit when they discover they have to move to areas they once felt were beneath their dignity.
They were grand folks. They did all they could to give me a good life, and I venerate them!
Nursing homes are also a very American, very recent phenomenon.
And regarding that map: suicide rates tend to be higher among the bootstrapped & alone. The mountain states are notorious.
Extended family ties are just vital as immediate throughout life...When the burden sharing gets lost, that’s when the Government steps in “to help.” (And we all know where that leads...)
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“I used to be entirely in the camp that said you should kick your kids out at 18 and force them to live independently and make their own way in the world. I don’t feel that way at all anymore. I want all my kids to live with us until they get married. Even after they’re married, if they want to live on our property, or close by, my wife and I would love that.
The important thing is to teach your kids responsibility, which we’re doing. They need to contribute and help around the house, which all of our kids do from a very young age. Provided you aren’t raising ungrateful useless moochers, why kick them out? Why drive them away from your family home? I don’t see the point in it anymore. I actually like my kids and like being around them.
Maybe they’ll all end up scattered to the wind. But I’d prefer to keep the family together. Why wouldn’t I?
A lot of parents think that you reap the rewards of parenting by kicking them out of the house and reclaiming your “independence” or whatever. So the reward is just going back to your pre-parenting state? No, the reward should be a family that you love and get to enjoy until you die. The reward should be raising children who one day also become companions, and eventually caretakers. The reward is not, or shouldn’t be, 30 years in a silent empty house and then dying under florescent lights in a nursing home.”
- Matt Walsh, the Daily Wire
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bP-p-CM1gpk
If the parents pay for every expense from dry cleaning to TP it is a toxic co dependency for young married couples.
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