It is not just women. Men too! My former SIL cannot deal with my daughter having remarried and moved on. He left his family for another woman! He has a permanent DVRO after 4 years of BS and he continues to create drama and abuse. The children are now pleading to not go on visitation, but my daughter follows what the court ordered as to visitation. She told the older daughter she might be able to talk to the judge in a few years. This former SIL threatened me and came close to body slamming me at a visitation exchange at the police station last year. His anger came from me requesting that he not come into my vehicle, but make the exchange outside. He completely blew up, slamming car doors, the children werefreaked out! I told him to go ahead and hit me because I would not get up until the ambulance arrived and his ass was in jail! Instead he slammed his truck door so hard I could hear the hinges tweak. My husband was in passenger seat. He insisted on coming to every exchange because he was worried about how former SIL would behave. My husband was not in good health. The following Sunday he had a massive stroke. We went through over 2-1/2 months of medical treatment…most of which was abuse before he passed away. Sorry, but this subject is a huge problem to me… it is not just women. Narcissists are male also.
Please never tell an irrational, or any other person, to go ahead and hit you. We love you too much! FReegards.
I am aware that it isn’t just women. It’s just that it seems women get more angry about that then men, when the ex does better without them.
There are probably evolutionary/biological reasons or it’s their created internal nature for that.
What a sad situation. I’m so sorry for your loss and what you’ve gone through. It’s a shame your daughter met that guy in the first place. We have such high hopes for our children and then something like that happens. You all got a raw deal in life.
I hope you carry!
First pass I read that as Sister in Law, and it wasn't making sense. Please define your terms. Like on Reddit - sometimes FTM means a mentally ill woman that think she's a guy, and sometimes it means First Time Mother.
Folks aren't mindreaders unless they are physically present.
Women are much, MUCH more likely to use and hurt the children to get back at the ex-husband/BF.