I'm a successful Black woman. So why aren't men into me?

Yahoo ^ | July 1, 2025 | Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes

[dfwgator]

A man doesn’t want to date a “successful” woman, he wants to date their secretary.

[HIDEK6]

Counted seven "I"s in three short sentences.

The obama effect.

[OldGoatCPO]

Personally I think the whole concept of Hall Mark love stories and throwing the word love around like it's chocolate on Valentines Day is a part of the problem especially if not exclusively for women. Women are driven by emotion and really want that fairy tale called love. It hurts them as they look for relationships because men don't think that way. They want love and fear rejection. That was men when I was dating. You want to find a woman you enjoy being with that you wake up every morning looking forward to see her. But we feared rejection. That hamstrings you in finding that someone. Eventually I understood that even if I really cared for someone that did not equate to a lifetime together.

The reality is love is hard f’ing work. My grandmother told she married my grandfather because economically they needed each other. They married just as the Great Depression hit. After five children, years of hard work raising them, one day my grandmother rolled over in bed looked at my grandfather and realized she never wanted to wake up without him next to her. That was the day she said she realized she loved him. No Hallmark moment, just hard work building a home and raising a family together.

I agree the porn epidemic is a part of the problem along with environmental/social issues and oddly enough, decreased levels of testosterone in young men. How that and a porn epidemic go hand in hand I don't know. pun intended, sorry! When it comes to love, women have been sold a bill of goods. Men don't fall in love, lust absolutely, love not so much. We learn to love over time.

[voicereason]

I once had that kind of bravado but, fortunately, I found a good man who showed me what I really needed. We just celebrated our fortieth anniversary last month.

Congrats!

Our youngest just graduated high school, and I would easily venture that we were in the minority regarding not having been divorced/remarried/etc. We are going on 27 years this year, and it's amazing how many people are on their number 2 or even 3. Then people wonder why the kids are so messed up.

[Clarancebeaks]

Black, 5’11” tall, 195 pounds not quite a ghettopotamus but off to a good start.

[central_va]

Start drinking snd smoking Hun.

[central_va]

At that ht and wt she would be a light heavy weight.

[Fiji Hill]

She should go to her local beauty shop and get a Clara Bow hairstyle, and then men will flip out over her.

[cgbg]

This woman is not a success.

She is a failure.

Once she gains the humility necessary to get that she can start to turn her life around....

[crusty old prospector]

Maybe you should give up the cheap whisky and go top shelf? That’s the ticket

[OldGoatCPO]

Some of the men making fat comments should never travel to places like Duluth, MN. Lots of big Viking women there. They have a University there and the number of drop dead gorgeous blonde hair blue eyed women surprised me. Many as tall as me. If I was not married I would have had my company transfer me there permanently. The nurse I was working with was pretty, smart, long blonde hair, funny and about 6ft tall and I would guess between 175-185. Big, but not fat. I imagined she could keep a man pretty warm on long cold winter nights.

[Negan]

Some of you should get out more often instead of being keyboard warriors. A 6-foot tall woman typically weighs between 140 and 183 pounds for a healthy BMI. She's just slightly overweight. Men might be put off by her height more than anything.

Do some research and reading before the typical Freeper knee-jerking.

[Negan]

Thanks for a sane response. See mine above this.

[fuzzylogic]

While citing her ‘positive attributes’ she doesn’t realize she’s describing most of which doesn’t interest men. Career? Snore. Own all your own stuff? Snore.

They think this is what men look for.

[drSteve78]

Subtle innuendos follow. There must be something inside.....

ISWYDT

Cue some Rush bumper music,,.🎶 This

[PIF]

195 pounds ...
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Ghetto potomi

[drSteve78]

Do some research and reading before the typical Freeper knee-jerking.

Without ever having really met this woman, how can anyone have a valid opinion? She seems not to be spewing hateful rhetoric , used no obvious trigger words, may be a sweet person but for the judging of people who don’t know her.

[MinorityRepublican]

I’m educated and have a good career.

Actually, that's a turn-off for a potential male suitor. It tells him that she is independent and need no man. So as a result, he'll avoid her.

She would have been better off going to a community college. Learning how to do hair. Then get married.

[bert]

I will argue that she might be part of the growing Afro Heritage minority-minority. The Black men within the Minority-majority find her Uncle Tomish

[catnipman]

“5’11” and 195 is not overweight.”

it definitely IS overweight unless she’s a championship weight lifter:

“For a 5’11” 42-year-old female, a healthy weight range is typically based on Body Mass Index (BMI), which is a general guideline for assessing weight relative to height. A healthy BMI range is 18.5 to 24.9.
Calculation:

Height: 5’11” = 71 inches
Healthy BMI weight range:

Lower limit (BMI 18.5): 18.5 × (71²) ÷ 703 ≈ 133 pounds
Upper limit (BMI 24.9): 24.9 × (71²) ÷ 703 ≈ 179 pounds

Healthy Weight Range:
133 to 179 pounds”