Never even been pregnant, but never wanted a child who would do great things. I always wanted to be the one to do great things. Why would I want someone else to do it when I could? No regrets at not having children. Really grateful for the life I’ve led and the things I’ve accomplished. Life is good.
Dislike abortion because it seems that both lives have rights that conflict and don’t believe the mother should win all the time. Also believe the father should have rights in abortion or life decisions. Would hope that every child has someone who wants to love it and see it live a full and happy life. Wish there was a way to make better use of empty nest grandparents to guide little ones with their years of hard-won wisdom.
Saying that in an informational vacuum makes the statement (and all following statements) nigh impossible to evaluate.
Were you even fertile? In a stable, loving relationship? Was your lawfully-wedded husband fertile? Did he share your negative attitude on procreation?
Otherwise, this is like my saying, "I never wanted to walk on the Moon," without adding that I washed out of astronaut school, never even completed my high school education, or was born blind.
I believe that the basic emotional wish to have children is based upon the desire to have someone whom one can love (in addition to loving one's spouse), but also nurture and raise.
I also cannot conceive of being surrounded by others who marry and raise families and think, "Nah, let them ensure the continued survival of the Human Race - I got other things (my career as a used car salesman, etc.) on my plate!", then proudly adding, "Nope, the 500-million-year evolutionary struggle for existence of my entire line of ancestors ends here!"
I applaud your position on abortion, but wonder if you were aware of the long-term emotional effects of hormonal contraception upon the female psyche.
Regards,
“Never even been pregnant, but never wanted a child who would do great things. I always wanted to be the one to do great things. Why would I want someone else to do it when I could? No regrets at not having children. Really grateful for the life I’ve led and the things I’ve accomplished. Life is good.”
Me: I’ve also never even been pregnant. I never wanted a child. It had NOTHING to do with finances. My childhood sucked and I just didn’t have warm fuzzies about that whole “family unit” dynamic. And I was afraid I might not be able to break that cycle of bad parenting. (My siblings had kids and were/are good parents. Their children are successful, and have raised good kids themselves.)
Hubby’s childhood also was terrible and we were on the same page re kids from the get-go.
I am grateful for the adult life I’ve led and the things I’ve done — some are accomplishments, and some are just things. Some bumps in the road along the way, but life is good.