“Never even been pregnant, but never wanted a child who would do great things. I always wanted to be the one to do great things. Why would I want someone else to do it when I could? No regrets at not having children. Really grateful for the life I’ve led and the things I’ve accomplished. Life is good.”
Me: I’ve also never even been pregnant. I never wanted a child. It had NOTHING to do with finances. My childhood sucked and I just didn’t have warm fuzzies about that whole “family unit” dynamic. And I was afraid I might not be able to break that cycle of bad parenting. (My siblings had kids and were/are good parents. Their children are successful, and have raised good kids themselves.)
Hubby’s childhood also was terrible and we were on the same page re kids from the get-go.
I am grateful for the adult life I’ve led and the things I’ve done — some are accomplishments, and some are just things. Some bumps in the road along the way, but life is good.
My heart to yours. I’m so grateful you were able to break away from your childhood memories to build the life you imagined for yourself. Fantastic that your siblings did well. Every child/parent relationship is different and every individual meets challenges in their own unique way. It’s wonderful that you have the opportunity to be part of their family units as an aunt and let these new and better relationships be the ones you remember and cherish.
>>some are accomplishments, and some are just things. Some bumps in the road along the way, but life is good.
Think that’s called Life. That’s what makes people so exciting. Each one has had a unique set of experiences that they can share and help us understand beyond the limitations of our own experiences. There isn’t a person alive who hasn’t had that mix of ups and downs. What makes us grow is when we learn from our own experiences and those of people with whom we come in contact. Every person we meet is our potential teacher of how to meet our personal challenges and how to overcome them. We need to applaud one another and be ready to support and care about the larger family we create in Friendship.
So very glad your hubby found you. What wonderful luck for you both.