The way to go see you love who died is to believe in Jesus Christ. THAT is the only way to heaven, the only heaven there is. It is either heaven or hell, on third place. Choose Jesus Christ and live forever with Him. Now yes some say there are other ways to heaven. WRONG! HE said that HE is the ONLY way to heaven. End of discussion. Period!! No other discussion. Believe and if your dear sweet wife was a Believer in Christ, you will join her there forever. Simple as that. Good luck.
I cannot argue.
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