Posted on 03/24/2025 5:58:27 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
After a handful of underwhelming relationships and dozens of disappointing first dates, Andrea Vorlicek recently called off the search for a husband.
The 29-year-old always thought she’d have found her life partner by now. Instead, she’s house hunting solo and considering having kids on her own.
“I’m financially self-sufficient enough to do these things myself,” said Vorlicek, a Boston-based accountant. “I’m willing to accept being single versus settling for someone who isn’t the right fit.”
She sees her plans for an independent future as making the best of a lousy situation. “I don’t want to sit here and say I’m 100% happy,” Vorlicek said. “But I feel happier just accepting my reality. It’s mentally and emotionally a sense of peace.”
American women have never been this resigned to staying single. They are responding to major demographic shifts, including huge and growing gender gaps in economic and educational attainment, political affiliation and beliefs about what a family should look like.
“The numbers aren’t netting out,” said Daniel Cox, director of the survey center at the American Enterprise Institute (AEI), a conservative think tank. He ticked off the data points: More women than men are attending college, buying houses and focusing on their friendships and careers over dating and marriage.
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No one should be gaming all night every night while their partner does all the cleaning and child care duties. But how it usually plays out is, the guys are the gamers.
Plus you’ve never played and it shows.
I am proud to say you are right, I do not "game." I don't smoke weed either, before you ask.
Oops, you timer is off( like a toddlers) stop your fight with the big boss now, or Ill have a fit.
No idea where you're going with this.
Some of us females enjoy video gaming as well.
Did I say you couldn't?
As far as I can tell, yes, the male consensus here is that women should find a man and become his willing servant, or their life is not complete. I'll pass, personally.
Now-a-days if you go online a guy saying he is 5 foot whatever gets zero attention. Instant slide, gone. Not even in the game.
It's compounded by the fact that, in our modern society, outlaws - esp. ones guilty of really outlandish crimes, like notorious serial killers - are celebrities, and by becoming the (imagined) paramour of a serial killer a women can "share the limelight."
FURTHER, In today's lax society, even serial killers are often given lengthy sentences (instead of being executed - and even if they're given the death sentence, it can be years before sentence is carried out). This enables the female pen-pal (who is free to fantasize that she is "in love" with the serial killer and that he is likewise "in love" with her) to maintain a long-term, safe relationship with the killer. She can pretend that she is an angelic being helping to "restore his humanity," believe that she is Florence Nightengale "healing his spiritual wounds," claim that she is "rehabilitating" him, etc. Emotionally, she is the dominant partner, with the greater leverage.
She doesn't even have to ever have sex - Ick! - with him. A prospect some women might prefer.
Sick!
Regards,
She was on a conjugal visit with a man who had murdered four others.
It is a known phenomenon
He had a child from the first wife. I suppose he paid child support. He spent time with the child quite a bit after the divorce still.
He did say that it also cost about the same as leasing a nice car. I thought that meant the expenses for finding and getting the wife over - but it probably included some small settlement afterwards.
He was not a wealthy man (middle class I would assume).
not where I am. all manbunned man-boys.
alrighty
The married stay-at-home women I’ve known, no kids at home (or no kids period), had had the best marriages of any others, and were the happiest people. They had more than enough to do with church activities, keeping beautiful homes, crafts, and social activities. It’s really up to the woman whether or not she chooses to get into trouble.
Actually, there are WAY more opportunities to get into trouble in the workplace.
I remember the good ol’ days when decent men were mortified if their wives had jobs, except for being teachers or nurses.
I’ve had a couple bosses with no kids and whose wives didn’t work. I was so jealous of them!
When the big war comes, and all we have left is an army of Man-Boys who cry and demand better coffee before they face the Chinese Marines and the Russian Armored legion soldiers on the Alaska battlefields. Maybe then, people will wake up to the need for Men. Its OK, when we lose the war, many American women will marry Russian Men and go back to Mother Russia to raise big families in The New Russian Empire. What is terrible is this could happen.
So I take it your stance is that all our nation’s marital woes are purely because women are divorcing men for no good reason, and taking their money? Men are never abusive, men never leave good women, men are absolutely blameless, no women were ever disadvantaged by no-fault divorce, this whole mess is because of feminism? Is that how you see it?
If that's how you take it then you take it wrong. I pointed out women initiated 70% of all divorces and abuse/infidelity is not the cause in a large majority of cases. That is simply what the data shows. Usually the reason cited is they're bored, they feel held back, they feel unfulfilled, etc.
I also pointed out that men generally get the short end of the stick from divorce courts particularly wrt child custody. Again, I don't know how that's even arguable. The data on that is overwhelming. Note, that nowhere did I ever say all men are blameless, that some are not abusive, that some are not unfaithful, etc. Society as a whole is less committed to staying in relationships and making them work than was typically the case 2-3 generations ago. It used to be considered a real scandal to get a divorce....unless maybe you were a Hollywood type or really rich. Now its commonplace and everybody just shrugs.
I do think feminism sold women on some really bad ideas when it comes to the timing of how to live their lives....that they would be much better off if they did as their grandmothers did and chose more reliable guys earlier on rather than thinking they can spend their 20s swinging for the fences and can always circle back and settle for a decent guy in their 30s....or that they can put off having kids until their mid to late 30s. Things often do not turn out well when they follow that life path. It ignores biology and it ignores the fact that it takes two to tango....ie men and especially higher value men in their mid to late 30s do not value women their age generally.
Also please note, I do not bash women for liking what they like. For example liking men who are taller...or wanting men who have higher status or wanting men who have more money. I accept that female preferences in a mate are the result of millions of years of evolution just as male preferences are. There's no point in making value judgments about it. Its not going to change.
Man buns and skinny jeans are a no-go (or would be if I were in the market) for me.
Mr mm is semi retired and he and I are both so busy I
don’t know how I could manage a job. Between taking care of the property, the garden, doing my own cooking and preserving, and helping mr. mm harvest lumber for next year’s firewood supply, along with church activities and occasional travel to the kids and our cottage, we have more than enough to do.
Although, honestly if I were younger and in better shape and health, I would be more likely to be bored out of my mind.
And yes, I recognize the dangers of working outside the home as far as temptation.
My point was that in modern society men are considered lower than slaves.
We are too unreliable and rebellious to be proper slaves.
yep. How do these guys leave the house like this? we recently saw a grown man in a onesie.
The infamous ‘Boston Marriage’. The internet describes the lezz thing.
Yessir. strike while the iron is hot.
It's certainly true NOW, but I was trying to point to the historical forces that created our current circumstances. Particularly when people start talking about how the availability of birth control and abortion back in the 60s and 70s started having an impact. I brought up that during the same time period, no-fault divorce became available, and it impacted these older women who did NOT get child support because the children were grown, and did NOT get hefty alimony payments because women's right were not a priority in the late 60s and early 70s. I'm saying that this was ALSO a development that made women worry that being dependent on a man was no longer a safe option.
You’re rather arrogant assuming you know a majority of scenarios.
My husband and boys game. I don’t get bent out of shape about it.
They deserve to relax, because they average 10 plus hours a day or more, especially in the Army.
Ive met females who waste the day on the couch with social media and TV, who claim they are watching the kids (they’re not, they shove iPads and phones on the kids instead of parenting) then bitch at the husband, “I worked all day long.”
But you chose an extreme example to puff up your pride.
WTF does weed have to do with video games? Are you projecting?
Course you don’t understand video games or why your arbitrary time limit on them makes any damn sense. So before you make broad statements and want to impose time limits, try for a second to understand WTH you’re saying.
Lady, I never said anything about you regarding gaming. You just gas lighting now. I understand and enjoy games, that’s it. You don’t.
Plus I’m sure we wouldn’t be asking each other much of anything in person.
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