Free Republic
Browse · Search
General/Chat
Topics · Post Article

Skip to comments.

American Women Are Giving Up on Marriage
The Wall Street Journal ^ | March 21, 2025 | Rachel Wolfe

Posted on 03/24/2025 5:58:27 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican

After a handful of underwhelming relationships and dozens of disappointing first dates, Andrea Vorlicek recently called off the search for a husband.

The 29-year-old always thought she’d have found her life partner by now. Instead, she’s house hunting solo and considering having kids on her own.

“I’m financially self-sufficient enough to do these things myself,” said Vorlicek, a Boston-based accountant. “I’m willing to accept being single versus settling for someone who isn’t the right fit.”

She sees her plans for an independent future as making the best of a lousy situation. “I don’t want to sit here and say I’m 100% happy,” Vorlicek said. “But I feel happier just accepting my reality. It’s mentally and emotionally a sense of peace.”

American women have never been this resigned to staying single. They are responding to major demographic shifts, including huge and growing gender gaps in economic and educational attainment, political affiliation and beliefs about what a family should look like.

“The numbers aren’t netting out,” said Daniel Cox, director of the survey center at the American Enterprise Institute (AEI), a conservative think tank. He ticked off the data points: More women than men are attending college, buying houses and focusing on their friendships and careers over dating and marriage.

(Excerpt) Read more at wsj.com ...


TOPICS: Society
KEYWORDS: agitprop; americanwoman; astroturf; demagogicparty; dnctalkingpoint; dnctalkingpoints; genderdysphoria; homosexualagenda; marriage; mediawingofthednc; men; partisanmediashill; partisanmediashills; rachelwolfe; wallstreetjournal; women
Navigation: use the links below to view more comments.
first previous 1-20 ... 281-300301-320321-340 ... 541-544 next last
To: Jonty30

Or they are addicted to porneia, alone or with another, but not with a prospective wife ...


301 posted on 03/25/2025 3:59:38 AM PDT by af_vet_1981 ( The bus came by and I got on, That's when it all began.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 155 | View Replies]

To: alexander_busek

Or they are addicted to porneia, alone or with another, but not with a prospective wife ...


302 posted on 03/25/2025 3:59:54 AM PDT by af_vet_1981 ( The bus came by and I got on, That's when it all began.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 264 | View Replies]

To: Lurker
They’re self absorbed, narcissistic, and have completely unrealistic expectations for men along with a hugely over inflated view of their own worth.

A great many of the young men are equally unappetizing. Hooked on playing video games all day, and feminist when it comes to women working, but Victorians when it comes to domestic duties. They expect women to pay 50% of the bills and do 100% of the child-rearing and housework. I advise young women not to marry at all unless they are prepared to be mother to their husbands while also providing sex.

303 posted on 03/25/2025 4:02:58 AM PDT by A_perfect_lady (The greatest wealth is to live content with little. -Plato)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 214 | View Replies]

To: arthurus
Legal abortion and further back, legal chemical birth control made this probable.

There's one more element in this equation: No-fault divorce, which became available in 1969 in California and spread rapidly. Once men were able to dump old wives for new young trophy wives, women started realizing that even if they played by men's rules, stayed home and raised children... they could still be traded in once the kids were out of the house.

304 posted on 03/25/2025 4:09:51 AM PDT by A_perfect_lady (The greatest wealth is to live content with little. -Plato)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 42 | View Replies]

To: A_perfect_lady

Do you want to tell me how a white man can borrow $300,000 and paying it back when he’s been locked out of the labour market?

You might find hopelessness as a reason for sticking with bmvideo games.


305 posted on 03/25/2025 4:09:57 AM PDT by Jonty30 (I have invented blackened salmon salad by baking it in the oven for too long. )
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 303 | View Replies]

To: Jonty30
You might find hopelessness as a reason for sticking with bmvideo games.

Even the ones who are employed do it though. They come home from work, grab a bite, and go directly into the spare bedroom where the gaming console is set up. No, this is bigger than just that. It's like women being shopping addicts. The men are gaming addicts. Maybe it's biological-- men hunt (games) and women gather (shopping). But whatever it is, it's rendering the young men just as unappetizing as the young women.

306 posted on 03/25/2025 4:18:31 AM PDT by A_perfect_lady (The greatest wealth is to live content with little. -Plato)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 305 | View Replies]

To: MinorityRepublican

ha!
I see 25+ year old men out in their pajamas.
Nobody wants to get with mommy’s! baby, except mommy! of course.


307 posted on 03/25/2025 4:18:59 AM PDT by ronniesgal ( so is it okay that I said that??? GO TRUMP GO!!!!)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: A_perfect_lady

It is biological, because men have an inborn desire to conquer worlds, whereas a woman will see games as a time filler between activities.

I think a good compromise is to set a reasonable time limit, say 1/2 hour or 45 minutes and then save the game and tend to the honey do list and attention to the wife.


308 posted on 03/25/2025 4:20:59 AM PDT by Jonty30 (I have invented blackened salmon salad by baking it in the oven for too long. )
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 306 | View Replies]

To: Jonty30
There is no choice for them in their twenties, yes. However, I meant in their thirties when their career prospects have improved and the number of women available to them have improved. They are choosing to continue their celibacy.

It definitely does become easy for men in their 30s....to finally get women their age. The problem is by the time they're in their 30s, men no longer want women their age. They wanted those women 10-15 years ago. Now they want what those women were....ie women in their early to mid 20s.

I think a lot of the current problems would be solved and each would get a lot of what they want if women in their peak years would go for men who were 10-20 years older who had had time to build up success and material wealth in their careers. That used to be fairly normal. But feminism taught women that that's not acceptable and the man must be near their own age. So most men are not going to be successful enough in their 20s and no longer want them when by the time they are in their 30s. Thus far fewer marriages, far fewer kids and far more unhappy people.

309 posted on 03/25/2025 4:25:54 AM PDT by FLT-bird
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 268 | View Replies]

To: alexander_busek

That’s a big difference in the sexes. We women grow up dreaming of lifelong romance; despite the propaganda Jane Austin is still popular even among younger women. Men have a different agenda.


310 posted on 03/25/2025 4:32:32 AM PDT by Varda
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 240 | View Replies]

To: Jonty30
That’s a salient point. Most women, who finally get around in their thirties to Mr. Reliable, spent their twenties rejecting him because she was getting attention from Tyrone.

Exactamundo. That's what I've been pointing out. So now Mr. Reliable has to choose between accepting a lousy deal...ie a woman well past her peak who's been around the block many many times, who's biological clock is ticking down fast AND who he knows doesn't really want to be with him, she just wants to be with somebody before its too late - and she can divorce him and absolutely take him to the cleaners if they do get married and have a couple kids quickly....OR staying single. Is it any wonder lots of Mr. Reliables are choosing to stay single when that is the choice presented to them?

A generation or two ago, women made much more practical choices and married those Mr. Reliables early on. Yes, some turned out to be bad choices. It was a leap of faith after all to marry those men based on their potential. But a whole lot of the time it worked out and they built a life together and had a happy marriage. Now there's no faith and women demand to see the success up front....leading to the situation described above.

311 posted on 03/25/2025 4:34:08 AM PDT by FLT-bird
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 278 | View Replies]

To: MinorityRepublican

later


312 posted on 03/25/2025 4:34:24 AM PDT by Gay State Conservative (Import The Third World,Become The Third World)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: Jonty30
I think a good compromise is to set a reasonable time limit, say 1/2 hour or 45 minutes and then save the game and tend to the honey do list and attention to the wife.

Yes.

313 posted on 03/25/2025 4:35:45 AM PDT by A_perfect_lady (The greatest wealth is to live content with little. -Plato)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 308 | View Replies]

To: alexander_busek

Nice to get off the ‘usual topic’ and on to things I can agree with you on! Agree totally, on this. I tell the people I know not to wait, but have their kids early and by the time they are 50 years old, the kids will be out of the way (in most cases), and they can work on saving up for retirement...and be young enough to still watch their grand kids grow up while also being able to help.

And, as you say, the BEST opportunity for the girls is when they are young - 18 to 25 years old is ideal. The ‘career’ can wait as no one cares if a woman has a large time gap in which she was raising a family - but they do care, a lot, if she’s actively trying to juggle both, and then without a husband (babes: they won’t tell you this, but that is their thinking).


314 posted on 03/25/2025 4:40:06 AM PDT by BobL (The people who hate Trump demand that you hate Russia)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 226 | View Replies]

To: A_perfect_lady
There's one more element in this equation: No-fault divorce, which became available in 1969 in California and spread rapidly. Once men were able to dump old wives for new young trophy wives, women started realizing that even if they played by men's rules, stayed home and raised children... they could still be traded in once the kids were out of the house.

Women initiate 69% of all divorces.

315 posted on 03/25/2025 4:40:41 AM PDT by FLT-bird
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 304 | View Replies]

To: FLT-bird
A generation or two ago, women made much more practical choices and married those Mr. Reliables early on.

Remember that back then, divorce was difficult to obtain. Once No-Fault divorce became thing, and men could ditch their wives for trophy wives later in life, women found that a lifetime of housework and child-rearing does not come with a retirement plan if you get abandoned.

316 posted on 03/25/2025 4:42:14 AM PDT by A_perfect_lady (The greatest wealth is to live content with little. -Plato)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 311 | View Replies]

To: Jonty30
Women want the experience and atmosphere, not the porn itself. When porn has been produced by a woman, for women, it’s more about the experience she will get from a male and not necessarily the sexual act itself.

If what you say is true, then I would hesitate to even describe that as "pornography."

Unless you are talking about photos of "engorged me**ers" being thrust into "moist orif**es" - or even less-graphic "preliminaries" like images of fingers rubbing mammaries... and it sounds like you are indeed explicitly excluding such depictions... then what do you have left?

I am aware of the existence of literary (as opposed to photographic) pornography - and dimly aware of the female-targeted variant as manifested in those cheap paperbacks with covers portraying broad-chested plantation owners embracing swooning southern belles, and the like. I assume that their contents include no descriptions of "rippling orga**s" or the like. So I repeat: Isn't it equivocation to even categorize that as "pornography?"

So I am forced to conclude that these survey findings indicating that a significant percentage of dating-age women consume "p*rn" did not properly define the term.

Men want something approaching a gynecological examination in terms of explicit imagery, while women want... what? A photo-shooting of an opulent wedding ceremony and champagne-fueled reception, concluding with a discreet fade-out just as the bridegroom carries the bride over the threshold of their honeymoon paradise???

The existence of female-targeted battery-powered "accessories" and the like would seem to imply that females want as raunchy an experience as possible, just like men. But how to reconcile the fact that very life-like, electric-powered di**os fly off the shelves, while women universally find unsolicited "dick pics" disgusting?

Regards,

Anthony Weiner

(No, not really!)

317 posted on 03/25/2025 4:43:25 AM PDT by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 297 | View Replies]

To: A_perfect_lady
Remember that back then, divorce was difficult to obtain. Once No-Fault divorce became thing, and men could ditch their wives for trophy wives later in life, women found that a lifetime of housework and child-rearing does not come with a retirement plan if you get abandoned.

The problems with this theory are that women initiate 69% of all divorces AND men routinely get hit with crushing divorce judgements if they've had kids with their wife. Its usually the wife choosing to dump the husband rather than the other way around.

318 posted on 03/25/2025 4:45:28 AM PDT by FLT-bird
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 316 | View Replies]

To: FLT-bird
Women initiate 69% of all divorces.

Yes, the ones who had their own money. That still means almost one in three divorces were initiated by men, and any woman who didn't have her own money was in trouble. If one out of every three women played by the rules and got dumped anyway, you can see why they came to the conclusion that girl, you better have your own income.

319 posted on 03/25/2025 4:46:08 AM PDT by A_perfect_lady (The greatest wealth is to live content with little. -Plato)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 315 | View Replies]

To: alexander_busek

For women, it is still porn because the effect for them is it cause women to compare their marriage to the video and become dissatisfied the same way that a man may become dissatisfied with a woman because he saw a woman with more endowed assets.


320 posted on 03/25/2025 4:49:59 AM PDT by Jonty30 (I have invented blackened salmon salad by baking it in the oven for too long. )
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 317 | View Replies]


Navigation: use the links below to view more comments.
first previous 1-20 ... 281-300301-320321-340 ... 541-544 next last

Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.

Free Republic
Browse · Search
General/Chat
Topics · Post Article

FreeRepublic, LLC, PO BOX 9771, FRESNO, CA 93794
FreeRepublic.com is powered by software copyright 2000-2008 John Robinson