American Women Are Giving Up on Marriage

The Wall Street Journal ^ | March 21, 2025 | Rachel Wolfe

[MinorityRepublican]

After a handful of underwhelming relationships and dozens of disappointing first dates, Andrea Vorlicek recently called off the search for a husband.

The 29-year-old always thought she’d have found her life partner by now. Instead, she’s house hunting solo and considering having kids on her own.

“I’m financially self-sufficient enough to do these things myself,” said Vorlicek, a Boston-based accountant. “I’m willing to accept being single versus settling for someone who isn’t the right fit.”

She sees her plans for an independent future as making the best of a lousy situation. “I don’t want to sit here and say I’m 100% happy,” Vorlicek said. “But I feel happier just accepting my reality. It’s mentally and emotionally a sense of peace.”

American women have never been this resigned to staying single. They are responding to major demographic shifts, including huge and growing gender gaps in economic and educational attainment, political affiliation and beliefs about what a family should look like.

“The numbers aren’t netting out,” said Daniel Cox, director of the survey center at the American Enterprise Institute (AEI), a conservative think tank. He ticked off the data points: More women than men are attending college, buying houses and focusing on their friendships and careers over dating and marriage.

[Revel]

Probably about 80 percent of younger women are unfit for marriage. They are so brainwashed, woke and unstable that no man could stand them. 30 years ago it was a totally different story.

[alexander_busek]

over the chirps of her ceiling bird

Hah! I, myself, refer to it as the "Chirping of the Smoke Detector of Doom!"

[...] that she deserved a "high value man"; over six feet tall, earning six figures per year, and has six-pack abs.

So he has to bring concrete values to the table. Tangible items of demonstrable worth.

While she's bringing???

"Well, I'm nice, and supportive, and would bring encouragement and love."

In other words: Nothing that can be objectively proven, and which could vanish in an instant if, for any reason, she should ever grow "unhappy."

Regards,

[antceecee]

You could also posit the reverse is also true.

[alexander_busek]

Most men in their 20’s are celibate and many choose have no choice but to stay that way.

Regards,

[alexander_busek]

At least, not happening here. Am I disappointed, yeah, because i’d be a great grandfather. At best, i am a distant surrogate uncle. It is what it is.

But that's heartbreaking!

What could you have possibly done differently?

Regards,

[antceecee]

Hmmmm?

[alexander_busek]

Looking at the number of single mothers with children, I would have to think that women have given up on marriage quite some time ago. And, from the number of children that they have in tow, they gave up on it several time.

In their minds, getting married is a BIG STEP!

Getting pregnant? Not so much...

Regards,

[Jonty30]

There is no choice for them in their twenties, yes. However, I meant in their thirties when their career prospects have improved and the number of women available to them have improved. They are choosing to continue their celibacy.

[alexander_busek]

They could have, and tried, but they decided they no longer wanted children, after a few years of marriage, when it wasn’t forthcoming. Instead, she embraced being an aunt,

But in your earlier post, you stated that they had "found each other" when she was already 45 years old!

Barring heroic efforts with time-consuming, costly, and painful fertility treatments, who could possibly expect the woman to simply "get pregnant" and deliver a healthy child at that age?! Esp. considering that it would be a first-time pregnancy for her?!

This is like buying a lottery ticket in the hope that it will enable one to pay the rent when it comes due!

That kind of "magical thinking" should not be encouraged.

Regards,

[alexander_busek]

I think the end game will be like this: the imported squat brown men will do all the labor intensive and dangerous jobs and the white women will do the professional work and have surrogate babies and live happily ever after.

Your initial premise is not, per se, so implausible or ridiculous.

But would such a system be self-sustaining? Could it endure for several generations?

Regards,

[alexander_busek]

Then, one year, God saw fit to bring us one grandson.

How old were you when grandson number one was born?

Regards,

[alexander_busek]

I finally found the love of my life from China, she is the cousin of one of my best friends. We have been married for a wonderful seven years. After divorcing my X, I swore that I would never get married again. My current wife and I respect each other in our traditional husband and wife relationship. After being single for 23 years, I decided that the typical American woman of today was more hassle than they were worth.

Your post is missing vital info: Your age when marrying your Chinese wife. And her age when marrying you.

Regards,

[alexander_busek]

Don't understand the meaning of the two oversized images you posted: Dick van Dyke and the back of a man's head.

Please explain!

Regards,

[alexander_busek]

many of her 30 something friends wer3 single and planning on saving their eggs out of desperation [...]

They aren't "desperate," they're calculating.

They are only reaping what they have sown.

Regards,

[21twelve]

I met an older guy - he was middle 60’s I suppose at the time. (Hmm - my age now!)

We had met and were doing something, but he couldn’t stay long as he said he was having a picnic with his three wives.

“Huh?”

“Well, one wife - 2 exes. But they are all friends now. And all Filipino and younger than me. Great cooks, great in the sack. Once they get their green card they divorce me. And I find another one. Sort of like leasing a really nice car.”

[Jonty30]

Women threw it away when they threw away chivalry. I remember reading columns back in the 70’s when men were complaining about how quick women were in throwing away chastity.

[alexander_busek]

Men may be fine with someone not a threat to them in education and income [...]

Men don't feel threatened by women with more education or income than they have.

They feel at most a sense of foreboding, because they know that such women are, statistically, far more likely to subsequently file for divorce.

It's kind of staggering how many men put such a premium on looks and act like they deserve some kind of beauty queen for a girlfriend, no matter what THEY look like.

Mr. Kevin Samuels frequently pointed out that a majority of Black women are either obese or morbidly obese. Black men? Not so much.

Men are visual creatures. Nature made us that way!

Regards,

[Jonty30]

That’s a salient point. Most women, who finally get around in their thirties to Mr. Reliable, spent their twenties rejecting him because she was getting attention from Tyrone.

[alexander_busek]

PS. A strange thing is the allegedly homosexual women. Though supposedly not interested in men, several still are, demanding of the man’s noticing them and how they are dressed, etc. The reactions of the male, that reinforces the female’s demand that she has power (now: “girl power”).

Was unaware of this phenomenon. Can you please expand upon it, provide examples, quantify?

Are you relying on anecdotal evidence, or is this now considered "established?"

Regards,

[alexander_busek]

You could also posit the reverse is also true.

You are being unclear. Please plainly state your assertion, that we might better understand it.

The socio-economic, political (feminism), and technological trends that have warped women's expectations have been well documented. The "poor behavior" (total resignation) that (many) young men are now displaying in response is equally well documented.

So how justified are you in blaming men?

Regards,