I don’t recall any “refuelings” in our first lunar landings.
Once you escape Earths atmosphere there is no friction to speak of. Only course adjustments and fuel used for a soft landing at 1/6 Earths gravity.
Of course, it takes fuel to take off from the moon, but at a lower gravity.
A. The Apollo moon orbiter & lander were not made of stainless steel, Starship is. Starship weight 100 tons dry weight. Super heavy booster dry weight 303 tons. Gross weight fueled for both is 5,000 tons. Starship is bigger and more powerful be far that Saturn V was.
B. No matter were you go there is always mass; the more mass, the more power it takes to move the mass.
C. Because StarShip has more mass than either Saturn or Artemis, it requires multiple refuelings to go to the moon and to return. Saturn V and Artemis use composite materials which are far lighter than Stainless Steel.