Based on your descriptions alone of those podcasters, I wouldn't waste my time. Unless they are telling young men and women to respect themselves and each other, they have nothing to offer but bad advice.
>"Young men and women today are spending more time online than in real-life social interactions"<
There's the real problem. Proximity is a big factor in a person's dating life.
It's mostly a matter of numbers and proximity. High school sweethearts meet in school. Other young people meet in their neighborhood or social groups. Then, in their late teens and early 20s, more young men and women begin to pair off as they meet in college or through friends. Some people meet at their church. Then, people meet at work (not always a good idea). As the years pass, fewer and fewer people remain single.
I would advise all young men and women to stop obsessing over their love lives (or lack thereof). Get out and get involved. Oh, and stop worrying about being 'friend-zoned.' Many young couples start out as friends.
1. You have to be a little bit more open-minded about this. I say this as a FRiend!
2. Your statement implies that the situation is such that a 15-minute session of "hard love," with strict instructions to "straighten out and fly right" would suffice.
In actual fact, the situation is much more dire!
These self-entitled Black women who called into Kevin's show (erroneously believing it was some kind of "dating service" or "matchmaking show" where all they had to do was recite their "Wish List" / enumerate their demands and flash a little cleavage before leaning back while their "DMs" exploded with proposals from hundreds of high-value Black men) had to be first led down the garden path, then be exposed as hypocrites, humbled, and then admonished.
These women are like hardened S.S. officers in their warped worldview.
You know how you or I, as teens in the 1970s, would watch those saccharine PBS Public Service Announcements exhorting inner-city children to "believe in themselves?" That we were "the most-important people in the world" and could "do anything we could dream of?" You remember how, even at such a tender age, we could only shake our heads at the naive (and dangerous!) leftist worldview being espoused there? Because we knew that, in actual fact, it was necessary to put one's nose to the grindstone and exercise self-discipline, to advance in the world? And that, even then, success was far from guaranteed?
These woman swallowed that nonsense hook, line, and sinker!
A gentle "I would recommend that you drop your B.M.I. from 35 at least to 25, and then ask your mother to accept guardianship for the four illegitimate children you have from three baby-daddies, before re-entering the dating market" would have had no impact.
You apparently have had no experience with insolent, aggressive, angry, delusional, low-I.Q. (There! I said it!) Black women. I, myself, at first found it incredible how self-entitled they can be. And they called in to Kevin's show in droves.
It's mostly a matter of numbers and proximity. High school sweethearts meet in school. Other young people meet in their neighborhood or social groups. Then, in their late teens and early 20s, more young men and women begin to pair off as they meet in college or through friends. Some people meet at their church. Then, people meet at work (not always a good idea). As the years pass, fewer and fewer people remain single.
You are re-arranging the deckchairs on the "Titanic!" You are telling those hardened S.S. officers that they should just "try to make friends with the Jewish concentration camp inmates you're guarding - then you'd discover how they really aren't all that different from you!" You are handing out "Midol" to villagers in the midst of an outbreak of pneumonic plague!
The anodynes you are offering do not do justice to the severity of the vast, societal problem we are facing!
Regards,
A somewhat idealized, but essentially fair portrayal of dating life as it was in the 1950s.
But unless you have one of these...
...you might as well forget it.
You're SNL's "Church Lady," advising Madonna to "tone it down a little, maybe try attending a few church picnics."
(No offense intended!)
Any advice we dispense must recognize the reality in which young people today are living.
Regards,
approximately 69% of divorces are initiated by women.
“I would advise all young men and women to stop obsessing over their love lives (or lack thereof). Get out and get involved. Oh, and stop worrying about being ‘friend-zoned.’ Many young couples start out as friends”
First marriages last 8-9 years on average, second marriages 7-10 years, and third marriages 5-8 years. https://divorce.com/blog/divorce-statistics/