Your entire mindset is warped, as indicated by the fact that you conflate "having high standards" with "deserving to have those standards met in the real world."
A "broke, dusty" 45-year-old man, balding and paunchy, barely hanging on financially, is certainly to be commended for having "high standards," right? Isn't he admirable for having such "high standards?"
I mean, he's "holding out" for a slim, attractive cover girl in her 20s, with firm Christian values. Further, she should also have a bankroll, so that they can live in comfort while raising a big family.
How could you possibly criticize him for having "high standards," after all?
Because they're UNREALISTIC!
Because the women he wants, DON'T WANT HIM!
By the same token, men who are finally "coming into their own," have boosted their SMV through hard work, accumulating capital, acquiring societal status, building a career, etc. - DON'T WANT / have no reason to "settle" for a woman who was profligate during her peak SMV years, who would have spurned him in his 20s, when he was still struggling, but is now willing to accept him as a step-father to her children.
About being "pro-life": I most certainly am - but that does NOT mean that the woman shouldn't have to pay a penalty (bear the consequences) of her previous bad behavior. It most certainly does not mean that the man has any obligation to "step up" and "rescue" her from the unhappy consequences of her bad behavior.
Regards,
What bad behavior?