Desiring for other people to *LEAVE THEM ALONE* is not dominating others nor forcing them into submission.
All they wanted was for people to *LEAVE THEM ALONE*. Yes, quite unreasonable, and obviously necessitating the invasion of a million men to kill them for their Insolence.
All of that is pure lies and nonsense.
The truth is that Confederates from Day One were highly aggressive expansionists -- invading Union states, stealing Union property wherever and whenever they could.
Sure, they wanted to be "left alone", just as a bank robber wants to be "left alone" with his loot!