I may not have been precise in my post. What I would like to know, is what is driving the use of specific pronouns? Let’s be blunt - stating that citizens are required to use specific pronouns are only for a specific group of citizens - the LGBQT community. Are those of the LBGQT community being denied service or entry to any establishment? Why are establishments declaring they are LGBQT friendly if no one is being denied service? What about myself? What if attempting to make me conform to the inanity and insanity of referring to a singular individual as they or us, or refering to a man as she or a woman as he, offends me? Do I then have the ability to ask for an apology? Can I sue if I feel that by forcing me to conform to speaking in a nonsensical manner offends me? Will I be denied service or entry if I refuse to participate in the insanity? Will I be denied service if I refuse to even recognize, converse, or respond to any individual? Or is the use of pronouns and the “right” to be offended only allocated to a particular community of citizens? If I show up at the ballroom wanting to address as thou, and someone refuses or scoffs at me, can I then have that individual removed from the ballroom?
There are generally more women than men at dance events. As a result, some women take up leading so they will get to dance more often. We have all four permutations, in differing percentages.
The dance community tends to regulate itself and its conduct. If someone is a jerk, they won’t get to dance much, even if they’re a good dancer.
Give your partner the best 3 minutes you can. Enjoy yourself. They’ll want to dance with you again.
I’m partial to “Your Y-ness”, but it rarely comes up.
Ah, a rhetorical question. What bothers me was noticing the news anchors over a decade ago started using bad grammar- “so and so, she/ he, blah, blah, blah.” It made me want to scream and I couldn’t stand to listen or watch. When the mentally ill crowd insisted on special pronouns, it became clear that it had been planned social engineering, preparing for it.
Sorry, I misunderstood your intent. I’m 74, and I’m just as confused as you are. I usually use the pronoun that seems to accurately describe the individual. If he or she is offended. so be it. But, I’m retired and don’t need to worry about it.