[Tax-chick]

And what would they tell their kids?

They could tell their kids, "We would feel terrible if we forced you to bear the guilt of knowing that, out of concern for you, we were forced for pass up our opportunity for personal fulfilment."

That puts all the responsibility on the children and lets the adults continue to feel good about themselves, which is really all that matters, right?

[fwdude]

Most of these couples are admitting that they are NOT telling their kids, at least not the small ones. They know inherently that what they are doing is wrong.

[Republican Wildcat]

They could tell their kids, "We would feel terrible if we forced you to bear the guilt of knowing that, out of concern for you, we were forced for pass up our opportunity for personal fulfilment." That puts all the responsibility on the children and lets the adults continue to feel good about themselves, which is really all that matters, right?

^this

[Bigg Red]

They could tell their children, “Look, I am fond of you, but spicing up my sex life is more important to me. Sorry, I had to break your heart and ruin your life, but it really is all about me.”