My ex was one, also. Took me ten years to figure it out. She left a trail of wreckage everywhere she went right up until the day she died.
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Sorry to hear it. Hopefully you figured it out before the end. It helps to figure it out before the end. I remember posting a very personal account about the issue when I nearly died of cancer. The vast majority on the board were women. Probably 85/15. The women very much thought I was creating the behavior out of fantasy. They became venomous over my truthfulness over a situation. I ended up deleting and just disappeared. Women can only see men as pure evil but women have a clear path. So women psychos get the the ability to hide behind femininity. They are in effect super predators.