Posted on 05/15/2024 10:37:53 AM PDT by Morgana
Every kid had something they were different about, and it got exploited and made fun of. Then we all moved on to the next kid. Sometimes it was my turn to get picked on. I think there is some value in all of that for the picked on, it builds some amount of mental toughness. And for the most part, it was all stuff you had no control over and was stupid stuff.
In retrospect, there was a kid that now would be labeled autistic (we didn't know the term then), then we picked on some of his odd tendencies. Wish we would have laid off on him a little bit. Out of bounds to pick on someone with a real problem.
Fighting had a minor blind eye turned on it by teachers as well, which I think was good. If somebody needed to fight it out, the teachers seemed to let it go, and let the boys work out some aggression before stepping in.
Children being bullied in school is something I cannot process.
The adult administrators who allow it should be hung, in public.
Let's not forget the bullying from woke teachers.
No so sure a 10 year old isn’t that far from being in k-1 young minds hurt very easily.
A classmate at 14 took a 22 and blew his brains out we never knew why sometimes knowing is as bad as wondering why.
Unless one is a Marxist, I can't imagine any parent sending his child to a school whose ethos is state-sponsored atheism.
Or actual Satanism.
Very true, also it prohibited children from using what my uncle called a "force equalizer".
The point is that assault by an adult on an adult is treated with seriousness by the authorities. There is no, "we are handling this in house" nonsense.
Schools, public or private should not be allowed to get away with that either.
Sounds like more absentee parenting.
There’s a really good anime’ called “A Silent Voice” (can be seen at https://9anime.pe/watch/a-silent-voice-11?ep=50465 ) about a boy who bullies a deaf girl at school and how his life changes when his fellow bullies turn on him. It’s a really neat story of redemption and what it means to walk with somebody who doesn’t love their life, and how it changes everything when you live to put joy in someone else’s life.
My son has always been teased even though he’s a genius. He was beaten on the playground also and the school people wouldn’t do anything about it. When he was a freshman in high school I decided I would never send him to a school again because one particular teacher (teaching them exactly the opposite of how to do real journalism) was literally killing him and after I shared with her how I was having to talk him into living every day, she just didn’t care. No way was she going to let him use actual scientific research for his research paper; he had to use the approved MSM crap with no documentation or substantiation. When you tell a teacher and an administrator that their adherence to lies is literally killing your son and they say, “Who cares?” it changes the way you think about these people. He was nothing to them. He was a sheep and they were bad, bad shepherds who only cared to make sure they were keeping the sheep from ever thinking for themselves.
When my husband got dementia that son had a really, really hard time with it. His own intelligence had been his own mind’s justification for his existence, and when he saw how easily brain function can be lost, through no fault of the victim, he began to see intelligence as a gift that people can’t help if they don’t have it. He also began to see that sometimes there are mental gifts that are even more valuable than being smart. His dad’s ability to stay in relationship with us even when he didn’t know much of what was going on around him, and his steady, gentle care and love for us even as his world was closing in on him... made my son realize that human life is valuable, even when the brain is limited in what it can think and do.
These are things that really deepen a person’s inner being. When the sanctity of all human life is genuinely explained and nurtured, there’s hope for reversing bullying. Without it, nothing the schools do will change the kids or their parents. When my son was in 4th grade he resisted the “Black history month” bulletin boards and I discussed with him to make sure he understands that Gpd DOES create diversity for the benefit of all of us, but it’s not just about skin color. It’s about each one of being unique and God making us that way because we have something that everybody else needs, even if what we have seems to be a weakness. We’re like puzzle pieces with holes and knobs so that we fill in what another person lacks and grow together because of it.
He understood that and could totally get behind that idea - the sanctity of all human life. But when he tried to explain it to his teacher she said no diversity is just about skin color not about valuing all human life. It’s because abortion has to be swallowed whole. We can’t value the “least” among us because if we did we would then see value even where a mother sees no value in her child’s life. That’s not acceptable. So they will tsk, tsk about bullying but will never, EVER do anything about it, because that would require them to affirm the sanctity of ALL human life.
Regarding what you did back in 4th or 5th grade, you’ve grown since then, and that’s probably why you were allowed to go through that. The student you mocked was probably at least partially protected because his mind works differently. We all have things in our past that shame us, but I do think it helps to realize some learning just doesn’t happen without those kinds of experiences. You had to learn to jumprope by failing over and over until you didn’t. That’s the learning process. And the same kind of process happens to teach us empathy. There doesn’t need to be shame from going through that process, any more than there would be shame for having to go through toilet training.
Sorry to talk so much. This subject raises a lot of thoughts for me, because our family has always dealt very closely with so many of these surrounding issues.
“remove the child and school him themselves.
They abdicated their parental authority”
Yes.
Thanks, noob.
“The parents said they had 20 conversations with the school about the bullying going on against their son.”
I guess that the next time, Time #21, Dad would have said, “And THIS time I mean it!” Twenty times is insane.
I was bullied by a boy for a few years in elementary school. Glasses. My clothes weren’t nice. A few other things. Then one day in sixth grade I’d had enough. I was on crutches, and I took one of them, swung it around to get some force, and ... Pow! He never bugged me again.
Someone must have known he was being bullied?
Seems the kid’s parents could have a few legitimate civil suits for wrongful death against the school district, of course, and against every parent whose children were involved in the bullying. Some maverick prosecutor might even be brave enough to file criminal charges for murder.
What does it take to instill a sense of empathy in children today? (Good parents?)
“Bullying was pretty bad when I went to public school back in the 1970s. Back in those days, kids were coached by their Dads to “punch back hard” on bullies but unfortunately, that solution rarely worked. ...”
Plus if a kid physically fights back with a bully today both get suspended. Usually the the parents of the kid being bullied will be up at that school house, with a lawyer demanding he not be suspended and it gets over turned. But only if the parents bring in a lawyer.
This is why we have a lot of school shootings as a lot of those kids were bullied.
Yea, it's always bullshit isn't it?
So who helped him Mr. Internet Sleuth?
Comments like yours are becoming more common place on this site and equally sickening and dragging it into the sewer.......
If the “bullies” are ferals or degenerates the school doesn’t consider it bullying.
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