Many parents nowadays raise their children to be drug addicts. That’s the fact of it.
Raising their kids to follow their wants rather than fulfilling their needs.
“Honey, what do you want for dinner”
vs.
“You need to eat your food or you’re not hungry”
If the wanting is reinforced the wants invariably wind up on drugs.
The concept you mentioned regarding raising kids went out the door probably beginning in the 70’s and completely gone in the 90’s. When I was with my parents as a kid I was never asked what I wanted.