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Sometimes I long for the life of a tradwife. Then I remember it’s a reactionary fantasy; The reality is so much darker (“anti-vaxxing, decrying contraception and woke liberal modernity”)
The Guardian ^ | February 4, 2024 | Emma Beddington

Posted on 03/24/2024 10:46:57 AM PDT by DoodleBob

…But I’m fascinated by tradwife life, why it appeals and what it’s selling.

It’s less the campy, colour-saturated, submissive 50s-housewife cosplay (if you aren’t familiar, check out @esteecwilliams and prepare to hear that “God designed two genders for different purposes”). That feels like fantasy or fetish, designed, I suspect, to appeal mainly to men. (Some of the women who yearn to surrender to a male provider could be, as one astute TikToker put it, “mistaking wanting to be a trad wife with wanting universal basic income.”)

But the other kind – families forging a wholesome, homesteading existence – taps into a longing for things it’s objectively reasonable to long for. It’s stuff I long for: a slower, simpler, more intentional way of life, making do and mending, a hands-on relationship with nature, the seasons and food production. …They make it look so lovely, this 19th-century drudgery. The reality of homesteading is precarious and not pretty: … But the gorgeous aesthetics can also lull you into not noticing, what – apart from sourdough starter kit – it’s selling.

At the extreme margins, that’s white supremacy: a fringe of tradwives enthusiastically repopulating the world with blond babies. Others sit along what’s been called the “crunchy to alt-right pipeline”, where granola-fuelled enthusiasm for organic farming, fermentation or home schooling (none of which – obviously! – is inherently alt-right) elides into anti-vaxxing, decrying contraception and woke liberal modernity.

But even when it’s just a homesteader saying feminism makes them sad or suggesting scrubbing dishes glorifies God, it tends to celebrate a narrow vision of life: white, straight, Christian, cleaving to traditional gender roles and family structures.

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TOPICS: Gardening; Outdoors; Society
KEYWORDS: feminism; ifyousayso; tradwife
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear

“It just means normal.”

Exactly. Like our moms were.


41 posted on 03/24/2024 12:56:51 PM PDT by MayflowerMadam (Fraud vitiates everything." - SCOTUS)
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To: Shadow44

Shame cover, their attempt.

Then the end, Pity, ugly, death.
Weeping and gnashing of teeth.


42 posted on 03/24/2024 1:00:30 PM PDT by Varsity Flight ( "War by 🙏🙏 the prophesies set before you." I Timothy 1:18. Nazarite prayer warriors. 10.5.6.5)
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To: DoodleBob

Not very feminist of her, refusing to respect the choice some of her trad wife sisters have made...

And I say that as both a trad wife and a feminist.


43 posted on 03/24/2024 1:04:33 PM PDT by mewzilla (Never give up; never surrender!)
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To: Secret Agent Man

Sunk-Cost.

And that women, must be proven, and proven in ☢️Western society now.


44 posted on 03/24/2024 1:06:55 PM PDT by Varsity Flight ( "War by 🙏🙏 the prophesies set before you." I Timothy 1:18. Nazarite prayer warriors. 10.5.6.5)
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To: DoodleBob

45 posted on 03/24/2024 1:07:09 PM PDT by Bratch
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To: MayflowerMadam

Normal. ✅📌😺🐯


46 posted on 03/24/2024 1:09:10 PM PDT by Varsity Flight ( "War by 🙏🙏 the prophesies set before you." I Timothy 1:18. Nazarite prayer warriors. 10.5.6.5)
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To: Worldtraveler once upon a time

It is amazing that this preening narcissist thinks anyone else cares about her opinion about what other people’s opinions are or should be.
“a narrow vision of life: white, straight, Christian,”
This is absurd, I don’t have “vision of life” by being white, straight and Christian. I was born that way, it not a vision it is just a given. So to broaden my “vision” I should wear blackface, practice anal sex, and convert to Islam? I think not.


47 posted on 03/24/2024 1:11:39 PM PDT by brookwood (If we pay $400 billion for Green New BS, do we get a guarantee that the weather will improve? )
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To: DoodleBob

I was guessing that “tradwife” was something kinky.


48 posted on 03/24/2024 1:25:23 PM PDT by gitmo (If your biography doesn't match your theology, what good is it?)
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To: gitmo

A tradwife (a neologism for traditional wife or traditional housewife) in recent Western culture, typically denotes a woman who believes in and practices traditional sex roles and marriages. Many tradwives believe that they do not sacrifice women’s rights by choosing to take a homemaking role within their marriage. Some may choose to leave careers to focus instead on meeting their family’s needs in the home. The traditional housewife aesthetic has since spread throughout the Internet in part through social media featuring women extolling the virtues of behaving as the ideal woman.


49 posted on 03/24/2024 1:27:31 PM PDT by DoodleBob (Gravity's waiting period is about 9.8 m/s²)
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To: DoodleBob
A tradwife (a neologism for traditional wife or traditional housewife) in recent Western culture, typically denotes a woman who believes in and practices traditional sex roles and marriages.

That works. Or just be a Mormon. Or a devout Catholic. Etc.

50 posted on 03/24/2024 1:29:05 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
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To: EvilCapitalist

I see a Subaru in the driveway


51 posted on 03/24/2024 1:30:51 PM PDT by AppyPappy (Biden told Al Roker "America is back". Unfortunately, he meant back to the 1970's)
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To: stanne
Middle aged men without families are a very sad lot.

How old are you? A quarter of 40 year olds never have been married. In 1980, it was 6%.

Men are tired of being taken to the cleaners by women. So it's better to be alone.

Want to increase our marriage rate and ultimately the birth rate? Change the law so men won't lose everything when they get divorced.

52 posted on 03/24/2024 1:32:57 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
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To: MinorityRepublican

“Men are tired of being taken to the cleaners by women.”

That door swings both ways, Baby. I was “taken to the cleaners” by a man. Lost everything and had to regroup and start over again. (And actual Lifetime movie plot.)

There are way too many misogynists on this forum.


53 posted on 03/24/2024 1:36:07 PM PDT by MayflowerMadam (Fraud vitiates everything." - SCOTUS)
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To: MinorityRepublican

A 56 year old man with no kids and no wife is heading for loneliness


54 posted on 03/24/2024 1:36:30 PM PDT by stanne
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To: one guy in new jersey

And wouldn’t that be a pity.


55 posted on 03/24/2024 1:36:38 PM PDT by lastchance (Cognovit Dominus qui sunt eius.)
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To: mewzilla; ronniesgal; Cowgirl of Justice

Tolerance, for that lot, is a one-way street.

To be fair, I would NOT want to return to the days where husbands belittle and even strike your wife with impunity. Indeed, I’ve been in some very ”trad” crowds and, honest, the women look haggard with 4+ kids in tow, and the guys look well-rested and snap their fingers and their wives move.

At the same time, a sniveling guy with tire tracks on his back is antithetical to civilization.

In the Gospels, husbands are commanded to “love your wives, as Christ also loved the church, and delivered himself up for it.” Guys who do that are NOT what this crowd wants, because Jesus flipped over tables when righteousness demanded it.

One of the few benefits of social media is young guys and gals can get a well-documented picture of the prospective mate they just met. The hot/crazy matrix works for BOTH sexes.

We may wind up in a heavily-siloed nation where trads are over here and progs are over there. I’d prefer for that to NOT be the case. Time will tell.


56 posted on 03/24/2024 1:42:54 PM PDT by DoodleBob (Gravity's waiting period is about 9.8 m/s²)
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To: MayflowerMadam
That door swings both ways, Baby. I was “taken to the cleaners” by a man. Lost everything and had to regroup and start over again. (And actual Lifetime movie plot.)

I'm sorry to hear that. Many guys are jerks. That's true.

Numerous studies have shown this. In fact, nearly 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women.

The problem in American society is that we encourage women to divorce their husbands when they're unhappy.

Of course, it has nothing to do with your situation. Each situation is different.

But there's not much incentive for a young man to get married unless he's wealthy and/or famous. Even there, it's a gamble.

Even Tom Brady and Kevin Costner got screwed over by their wives.

57 posted on 03/24/2024 1:44:09 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
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To: stanne
A 56 year old man with no kids and no wife is heading for loneliness

Still better than paying alimony.

58 posted on 03/24/2024 1:45:07 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
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To: MayflowerMadam
I call them something different…


59 posted on 03/24/2024 1:45:44 PM PDT by DoodleBob (Gravity's waiting period is about 9.8 m/s²)
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To: MinorityRepublican

“ Still better than paying alimony.”

There’s the spirit!


60 posted on 03/24/2024 1:49:37 PM PDT by stanne
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