You are the exception. But if we reduced the number of women who are raising children alone to women who's husbands either walked out on them or died the numbers shrink by a large margin.
Once that happens the problem becomes manageable. The rule is that we should provide for the widowed (and if your husband walks out because you do not want to kill your baby you are widowed even if he is still breathing) and fatherless. That rule has gone by the way side because the problem has reached critical mass by the choice of the adults.
It is not judging to say that. It is just reality.
I understand and agree mostly.
I know that people do not make that distinction when you are single with a child. They don’t take time to understand what happened, they just turned their nose up at me.
No one helped us out but I didn’t complain for the government to bail me out either. I just worked 2-3 jobs to make ends meet.
I met my husband at a singles church group that had quite a few single moms and dads. It was the first time I felt accepted at any of the dozens of churches I had been to before. And it wasn’t a “seeker-friendly” church, just one that believed in second chances 😊