If men didn't focus on that aspect of women to the point of obsession, then women wouldn't think that's all men cared about.
All we keep hearing is how visual men are and how important it is for them, and they you all wonder why women think that's all that counts for you (pl)
Case in point is the *guilty/not guilty* verdicts lobbed about on FR whenever a woman is accused of a crime. It's all based on looks. Character has nothing to do with it, nor does the rightness or wrongness of the actions.
If men want women to know they value more about them than looks, then men need to act like looks are not all they value in women.
Men are visual and pretty base, however, if you think LOOKS are all that matter maybe open your eyes a bit more. Yes, pretty women get more attention, and pretty women can likely get away being more of a see you next tuesday kind of gal and still get dates... However, getting a date, doesn’t mean you are marriage material.
Sure a hot chick will have no shortage of guys wanting to get in her pants, that doesn’t mean they will stick around. If all you got are looks, and you are a miserable person to be around, you will eventually wind up alone. Looks fade, and men do get wiser with age.
Another side of this same coin is women who think because they can bed a guy who’s a 9 or 10, that they are going to wind up being made a wife by one, and wind up usually disappointed.
Yes, looks matter.. but if that’s all you got, and are just a selfish or miserable person, don’t be surprised that the guys don’t stick around.
Sure you can always find the next guy who finds you hot to come along... but when he realizes you are a self absorbed bitch, he’ll likely move on too.
Looks matter, I would never say they don’t, but if you think looks and looks alone trump everything else, that’s just not true.
I’ve dumped my share of hotties, and there aren’t too many guys over the age of 30 who don’t have at LEAST 1 insanely hot ex that taught them the true meaning of crazy... and have learned their lesson from it.
“If men want women to know they value more about them than looks, then men need to act like looks are not all they value in women.”
This is where you are absolutely wrong. I watch men all the time show they appreciate their women for far more than their looks.... I also watch a lot of, particularly young women, just take the men in their lives for granted and think they are somehow goddesses and the men should just be grateful they let them be around.
If you think your looks trump all, you are a very large fool... and thanks to social media.. there are a lot of damn fool women running around anymore.
Yes, you look good in a skimpy bikini and if you post your pic online you will get all the superficial adoration you want from guys... but you think that means you can just treat people like crap because “I’m Hot” deal with it... then you are a very very lousy human being.
Everybody has to find their partner attractive. So that's necessary but not sufficient unless the guy is really shallow and foolish. You have to live with that person and they will be your partner after all. You'd better have compatible values and be able to get along well.
Case in point is the *guilty/not guilty* verdicts lobbed about on FR whenever a woman is accused of a crime. It's all based on looks. Character has nothing to do with it, nor does the rightness or wrongness of the actions.
Its an obvious joke. Lighten up.
If men want women to know they value more about them than looks, then men need to act like looks are not all they value in women.
The vast majority do. This would be like accusing women of only caring about a man's height and the thickness of his wallet. Obviously most women care about that. That's fine. I understand the biological/evolutionary reasons behind it so I don't negatively judge women for it - but by the same token if that's ALL she values, that's obviously very shallow and foolish on her part and not likely to lead to a good outcome.