[pax_et_bonum]

I get it. It just took me too long to get it for me.

stylin, I was about forty-five when I finally started to understand and to get away from my awful situation.

I kicked myself for being blind and stupid, but in retrospect I see that it was the best time for me to act and that I was guided through prayer.

Also, I’ve gotten to a place in my life that I can say that I wouldn’t change a moment of that hell because I’ve learned so much through the sorrow and suffering caused by the people who should have loved me most.

We each have a special call to follow and our timelines are unique to our call.

[norsky]

Dealing with childhood trauma. I had a patient who's son was in his 60's who was a police detective ,he was going thru therapy for the things that happened as a child. I thought to myself, why can't he get over it? But I realized later that most people still have that little child in them that struggles with suppressed memories of abuse in words and physical punishment.

So in my own life when I became a Christian in my 30's I realized I needed to forgive my father, so I did, but it was superficial because one night I had a terrible dream of severely beating my father. I woke up and thought, what the hell. I realized God was showing me the rage I still had inside that was suppressed. So I sat down and wrote my father a letter and told him I did not hold anything against him and and loved him, something we never said. I also realized he was under a lot of stress and that he had undergone worse treatment then I had back in Norway before the war and during Nazi occupation.

So what I am saying is that, it is good to bring these things out, but there is a resolution that you can get healing from these wounds. We have to forgive and realize our own failures. Right now I see my son doing the same thing I did to him and my father did to me and on and on. So the cycle can be broken.

[Rusty0604]

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[STARLIT]

Very well said Pax. Good evening.