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Mother receives $84,000 of taxpayer cash every year to send son with ADHD to private school after he was expelled from public school
Daily Mail UK ^ | July 29, 2023 | Alice Wright

Posted on 07/29/2023 12:45:20 PM PDT by Morgana

A New York mother has shared how she receives $84,000 of taxpayer cash a year towards her son's private education.

Melissa Petro's five-year-old son Oscar has ADHD, generalized anxiety, and a condition called pathological demand avoidance, which is defined by the Child Mind Institute as going to 'extremes to ignore or resist anything they perceive as a demand.'

His challenging behavior resulted in expulsion from his Hudson Valley public school two years ago.

Melissa and her husband scrambled to keep their son in education, turning to Otto Specht, a local Waldorf school, whose tuition fees, as well as the added cost of Oscar's individual accommodations and therapies totaled nearly $85,000 a year.

The couple emptied their bank accounts, savings and maxed out credit cards to afford the enormous bill, then successfully sued the school district for reimbursement and continued support.

'As a child with a disability, our 5-year-old son, Oscar, is legally entitled to early childhood services — and risks falling further behind developmentally without them' Melissa wrote in Insider.

Following Oscar's expulsion the school district failed to secure a spot for Oscar at another school or offer a compensatory service, so his parents felt they had no choice but to enroll him at a private school for children with sensory differences and learning challenges.

After doing so they sued the district for reimbursement after being told the authority were not legally allowed to place him at a private school.

The New York City schools chancellor, David Banks, has previously accused parents following this course of action of 'gaming the system' by taking advantage of the law to hustle their children into a free private education.

Melissa rejects this claim instead saying her family is simply 'desperate for help.'

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Only 5 years old and already has a problem with authority.
1 posted on 07/29/2023 12:45:20 PM PDT by Morgana
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To: Morgana

Excitable Boy.


2 posted on 07/29/2023 12:46:30 PM PDT by dfwgator (Endut! Hoch Hech!)
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To: Morgana

The New York City schools chancellor, David Banks, has previously accused parents following this course of action of ‘gaming the system’ by taking advantage of the law to hustle their children into a free private education.

I love it. The parents should say, “well your crappy system didn’t work.” Pay up.


3 posted on 07/29/2023 12:48:18 PM PDT by napscoordinator (DeSantis is a beast! Florida is the freest state in the country! )
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To: Morgana

child has L.O.B.
Lack of Belt


4 posted on 07/29/2023 12:53:59 PM PDT by AbolishCSEU (Amount of "child" support paid is inversely proportionate to mother's actual parenting of children)
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To: AbolishCSEU

Thinking the same. My dad always got my attention.


5 posted on 07/29/2023 12:56:00 PM PDT by ealgeone
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To: Morgana
In other words he was a normal three year old who did not receive the appropriate punishments when he misbehaved and is now a terror.

I was recently scolded because I "reacted too harshly" to Youngest Daughter acting out. She still occasionally has trouble controlling her temper. Because she acted out she lost privileges. In that case the privilege to go to a party. When chided I responded that the adults run the house, not the child.

Youngest daughter asked why that man was so upset. I told her his mommy probably did not love him enough to correct him when he misbehaved.

6 posted on 07/29/2023 12:56:07 PM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Follow the money. Even if it leads you to someplace horrible it will still lead you to the truth.)
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To: Morgana

My grandmother would have fixed that problem with a $.59 fly swatter.


7 posted on 07/29/2023 1:05:54 PM PDT by Farmerbob
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To: Morgana

Oscar sounds like a pain in the ass.
She should homeschool.


8 posted on 07/29/2023 1:06:26 PM PDT by ronniesgal (friends don't let friends be Kardashians)
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear

i worked for a guy who said “everybody knows, the kids in the family pick the restaurants” Not in my house, they did n’t.
( his girl was a holy terror- son was okay)


9 posted on 07/29/2023 1:08:51 PM PDT by ronniesgal (friends don't let friends be Kardashians)
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To: Morgana

I think I had pathological demand avoidance when I worked at Taco Bueno. Then, they fired me.


10 posted on 07/29/2023 1:09:20 PM PDT by crusty old prospector
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… pathological demand avoidance, which is defined by the Child Mind Institute as going to ‘extremes to ignore or resist anything they perceive as a demand …
I must confess that as a youth this excuse never occurred to me.


11 posted on 07/29/2023 1:17:05 PM PDT by daku
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To: Morgana

https://www.npr.org/2011/03/12/134456594/study-diet-may-help-adhd-kids-more-than-drugs

https://www.dyslexiadaily.com/blog/texas-school-triples-recess-time-solving-attention-deficit-disorder/


12 posted on 07/29/2023 1:17:11 PM PDT by qaz123
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To: Morgana

Another casualty of the modern mental health system, where kids are drugged and there are no consequences for rotten behavior.


13 posted on 07/29/2023 1:18:38 PM PDT by Socon-Econ (adi)
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In a way I guess they do because we see the inside of a four star restaurant once a year since they arrived. Of course part of it is that kids are expensive. Oldest Son has gone through three sizes in shoes this year.

I just do not understand parents who let their kids run the show. Love them dearly. Would die for them. But they are not in charge.

14 posted on 07/29/2023 1:21:38 PM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Follow the money. Even if it leads you to someplace horrible it will still lead you to the truth.)
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When we acted out our parents sent us to our rooms. Sometimes we had to say for days after school depending on how bad the offense was. My brothers and I called it “solitary confinement”


15 posted on 07/29/2023 1:22:33 PM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor. )
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A condition called pathological demand avoidance, which is defined by the Child Mind Institute as going to 'extremes to ignore or resist anything they perceive as a demand.

Wow, they have finally came up the a diagnosis that describes me to a tee. My two X-wife's can confirm it.

16 posted on 07/29/2023 1:30:45 PM PDT by usurper (AI was born with a birth defect.)
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To: Morgana
We usually go for physical labor.

There is ALWAYS something that needs to be done and usually the stuff is uncomfortable, stinky and tedious winter or summer.

17 posted on 07/29/2023 1:34:39 PM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Follow the money. Even if it leads you to someplace horrible it will still lead you to the truth.)
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"After doing so they sued the district for reimbursement after being told the authority were not legally allowed to place him at a private school.

The New York City schools chancellor, David Banks, has previously accused parents following this course of action of 'gaming the system' by taking advantage of the law to hustle their children into a free private education."

Anything that breaks the pubrik skrewel system is a good thing.

18 posted on 07/29/2023 1:46:03 PM PDT by StAnDeliver (Tanned, rested, and ready.)
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To: qaz123
We successfully curbed my child's ADHD behavior by following the Feilgold diet. The main culprit was apples (think apple cider vinegar also and the number of foods which may contain it, listing only "vinegar" as an ingredient). Also noticed an effect from liquids in plastic bottles as opposed to glass. Never was put on any medications and is an accomplished adult with multiple degrees.

Strange that 50 years later they are just recognizing this.

19 posted on 07/29/2023 1:49:11 PM PDT by Abby4116
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Oh yeah, my mother could wield a belt like nobodies business.

I had many a whippin’.

Although, I do think it caused me to be more stubborn.


20 posted on 07/29/2023 1:49:16 PM PDT by Irenic
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