I was in a long term (20+ years) ‘marriage’ that was a disaster. Drug abuse, addiction, verbal abuse, infidelity, money laundering. I may as well have been ‘married’ to Hunter Biden, LOL!
I stayed until the Steps were off to college, then I kicked his sorry butt out. Best thing I ever did for myself.
Now, I am in another long term ‘relationship’ (13 years) and life has NEVER been better. I feel 100% ‘married’ and it is NO WORK at all. He’s perfect for me, and I for him.
And, we tell and/or show one another that every day.
Love does NOT have to be ‘work.’ Love does NOT have to be ‘hard.’ You just need to be your true self, you need to GROW UP, be happy with the life YOU have built for yourself and then love will find you. :)
I’m happy for you, Diane.
Sometimes it’s true: All you need is love!
👍. It happens for some. Guess we’re blessed. We’ve been together coming up on 40 years(😲) in Dec and married for 37. Guess it stuck. 😂👍
So sorry you went through that. It would definitely have broken a lesser person. And you came out on the other side with your true soulmate. 🥰
I was married for 25 years, and experienced much the same as you. I made a vow before God and my family and stayed, even though I was tempted several times to leave, but he always begged me to stay and things would get better for a while, then always back to the same ol’ same ol’. He finally decided to end it 5 years ago and set me free! I met the most amazing man and finally know what it is to be totally and utterly in love. I actually did not believe in “true love” or being in love with one’s best friend, or “soul mates”. I did not think it was really a thing, but I do now. Oh, and my ex has regretted his decision.
I’m so glad for you. I’m can tell you love Beau by the way you always talk about him. He sounds like a great guy.
You’re right about love not being hard. Mr. GG2 and I hardly ever have a cross word. We both had previous disaster marriages. I can’t imagine us not being together.
Love does NOT have to be ‘work.’ Love does NOT have to be ‘hard.’ You just need to be your true self, you need to GROW UP, be happy with the life YOU have built for yourself and then love will find you. :)
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I agree - the work comes from having to spend all of your energy pretending you are somebody you are not. Be worthy - but never be fake.
Glad you found your way to something better. I wouldn’t say as the book suggests that the first year of marriage is the hardest. It was the easiest. The first 5 years were for us. But I struggle with a mental illness and that makes things harder.
Yes I have heard of a number of horror stories in my circle of associates of husbands cheating on their wives. And this is among Christian couples.