What you’re doing wrong is not loving your children unconditionally.
As of now I’m feeling guilty of gaslighting my girls. I love them both dearly and am extremely proud of their accomplishments. They both graduated with high honors in their fields. I just got in an acrimonious discussion with one of them this morning and reacted by posting. I’m a retired history teacher and I love the Civil War Era. I was just trying to explain that valor was found on both sides. Of course human bondage was an abomination but I believe many young southern men were fighting for land and honor and were conscripted. I absolutely do not believe southern monuments should be torn down to rewrite history. I’m going to follow some of the advice I found here and not be directly confrontational about culture and politics but I will not under any circumstances change my values to fit current culture!