The Death Of A Friendship

Life Experience | By Laz A. Mataz

[Lazamataz]

Recently, I lost a friend of over 40 years. It was his choice to terminate our friendship.

We had known eachother since college. We reconnected on Facebook for many years, about 12, and rather suddenly tore into me for a variety of criticisms.

A little background on him: He recently lost his wife of 30+ years then promptly got covid. I offered my condolences and told him he could reach out for anything at all. Then, upon hearing nothing back, I left him be.

I noticed him corresponding more and more with a younger Facebook girl. No worries, not my business.

I wrote a simple little post about Jesus not returning anytime soon and this girl (I'll call her Amy) got into a big tirade with me and other people, expressing she hated religion, didn't believe in Christ, and called people who did a 'disease' and a 'pestilence'. I didn't much like that, unfriended her, and eventually blocked her. In the meantime, my old college friend expressed some of the same sentiments, even tually posting outright blasphemes. Told him I was none too fond of all that.

Well, he responds with all sorts of attacks.

I'm "too long-winded' and he never reads my political essays." Ok, fine.

I'm "occasionally funny but I try too hard." Actually, it's quite the opposite. I post what makes ME laugh. If you laugh, fine, if you don't, that wasn't my intent anyways.

I "think I'm so damned smart." I'm aware I'm slightly above average but there are plenty of people smarter than me.

I "slept with his college girlfriend Joyce." Um, no. Joyce was exceptionaly beautiful and I have always been average looking. Even if I had been inclined to try, she never would have even considered me.

All this was out of left field. No idea what provoked his attacks and his decision to terminate our friendship. I did find out that this Amy chick apparently was his go-to person in dealing with the grief of losing his wife. She apparently considers herself a Wiccan witch. Not healthy, but not my business.

So I am left with a friendship of over 40 years, destroyed. I have experienced some stages of grief over it. But I will (and I have to) accept it.

[Lazamataz]

I don’t know any of his family members and frankly it would be a little ‘stalker-ish’ to reach out to any of them anyways. He was a former police sergeant so hopefully he knows the scams.

[Lazamataz]

Maybe some of this comes with age and wisdom in better perspectives, but FOR ABSOLUTE certain, I’ve noticed that society has changed for the worse the last two years.

Truthfully.

Best wishes. Maybe there is a home Bible study, or men’s group through your church where you can befriend like minded travelers and brethren?

Might be a fine solution.

[Jet Jaguar]

Bump

[Jet Jaguar]

LOL!

[dware]

Just misguided and apparently quite judging.

Dudes do weird things for new women, I guess.

[Craftmore]

Even though we have never met in person,I have enjoyed your writing and consider you a friend.

[rimtop56]

I’ve always enjoyed your posts, Laz, even though I don’t know you. I, too, lost a long-time (27 year) friendship when SCOTUS legalized homosexual marriage. I wasn’t even arguing with her, just noted that the Bible says God calls homosexuality an abomination. She claimed I was demanding she choose me over her lesbian cousin; I was not. Never even thought of it. Anyway, she unfriended me and has never spoken to me again. Sad, but I choose God’s Word over a fake friend.

[rimtop56]

P.S. You are very smart and funny. Many people on FR like and respect you.

[rimtop56]

P.P.S. I didn’t know you had a ping list. If so, put me on it.

[Lazamataz]

Thank you for your kind thoughts and your offer of friendship.

[Dust in the Wind]

Well, you’re a friendly sort as am I but I don’t chat much...

[Lazamataz]

P.S. You are very smart and funny. Many people on FR like and respect you.

I'm honored.... and I will place you on the ping list!

[AnonymousConservative]

I view you more like an FR celebrity, but only because I assume you have enough friends, and I don’t bother you when you are around. But if we met we would get along well.

People can be weird. And at this point when I see something grossly illogical, given the prevalence of domestic intelligence I am prone to wonder if somebody is just fucking with my head.

You have the spark, it is apparent in your writings. I would be amazed if there are not ten or fifteen people you have felt you knew well, who were actually surveillance sent in to get close by the domestic network.

People don’t get how big the domestic informant network is out there in the US, how many people volunteer to inform on everyone else, or the extent to which it is standardized and disbursed through society in organized fashion to get on top of everyone. And the extent to which it seems obsessed with people who think for themselves.

[SamAdams76]

Well, a lot of good responses here, affirming friendship and all that. Definitely I've appreciated many of your posts over the years.

I think we are alike in some ways. Not all ways.

But this coming weekend, you might be in some need of female companionship.

In which case I am willing to let you spend the coming weekend with my new girlfriend Greta Thunberg.

Now she's not the most cheerful woman in the world. She's still mostly gloom and doom and "how dare you" most of the time.

In fact, just the other night, when we were cuddling on the living room couch, she suddenly shrieked for me to get up and turn the thermostat down. Evidently, I was making her a little bit too hot.

So I got up from the couch and moved my thermostat down to 58. I figured since we had a long night of necking ahead of us, we would make our own heat in the room. And I was right, for by the time we went to bed, the room was at 71 even though the thermostat was set at 58.

She definitely generates some heat, that I can tell you. When I get her nice and hot, she allows me to put a MAGA hat over her and a cigar in her mouth.

And she's all yours this weekend if you want her. Just send my your address on Freepmail and I'll Uber her over.

I'm just saying, I need a bit of a break and you seem in need of some female companionship.

Win-win, all around.

[lastchance]

I was not sure if you were also friendly with the family. He may know the scams but probably figures he would never fall for one. He certainly is showing poor judgment in this matter.

[left that other site]

You are both correct and insightful about the situation.

I’ll be seeing her next week, and don’t know what to expect.

I’m praying for her.

[Albion Wilde]

Sounds like you’re better off.

[Albion Wilde]

I can handle differences of opinions in politics. Liberals not so much.

So true.

[fortes fortuna juvat]

She knows it too, and never misses an opportunity to snidely cast a negative remark about President Trump, Republicans, Christians, and People who believe in Traditional Gender roles.

She’s an intelligent person, and very educated,
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IMHO no one who can be accurately portrayed as you have described this woman should be considered “an intelligent person” regardless of how educated they are.

[left that other site]

I agree, but, with a 55 year history, she always SEEMED intelligent until this came over her. So I guess I still thought of her as such from habit.