Posted on 01/04/2023 9:56:49 AM PST by Lazamataz
Im so sorry. I know it hurts dreadfully. We’ve had a family member do this recently. Apparently this is becoming really common in families and friendships. It really hurts even if you realize its just another sign of our dysfunctional culture.
...forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us...
Ever notice libs don't keep you in their "prayers" to the one they worship (and I say a big Amen to that!)?
So keep them in your prayers, Laz. You'll be doing the right thing and that's just about all you can do.
And, BTW, I for one love you, man, and have you checked off as just about the smartest person on FR! :-)
“I had in High School and College went hard left while I stayed middle to middle right”
Yes, people have gone “woke” and became nuts. It’s a purity spiral where even leftists find themselves under attack (think Robespierre).
Elon Musk has talked about this, even posting a little cartoon of himself as he was years ago, sitting in the middle of the political spectrum. People to the left and right.
The next cartoon showed him sitting in the same place, the people on the right in the same place and the people on the left way off in left field.
You are one in a million and I’m terribly sorry that you’re suffering so.
It hurts to lose a friend, even if after the smoke clears we learn that the person wasn’t deserving of being called a friend.
A possibility to consider is that God brought this friend into your life precisely for this time of severe loss in his life which has thrown him into suffering, weakness, and temptation.
He’s cast himself into the arms of a person who is Wiccan and so he needs prayer from people who love him and see his situation from the spiritual perspective.
Of course the girlfriend had to get rid of you because abusers/controllers isolate their victims in order to have more influence over them.
Your friend might need your prayers now more than ever and there may be nothing in it for you except more suffering.
... no greater love...
Our Lord Himself wasn’t immune to betrayal.
Even He had a “friend” called Judas.
In prayer,
:-)
pax
This probably happens to all of us.
We joke that when another person or another family has moved to Oregone or Washington. Then, they had become raging/ranting democrats, which they kept hidden while living here.
One couple with dual retirements for each one, moved to the Medford area about a decade+ ago. Their Oregone home burnt down during the big fires up there,3 years ago. The Medford area had become very liberal.
So,they took the insurance money and returned to one of the conservative Northern Counties in Northern Ca.. They have had a couple of family members move close to where they now live.
A couple of years ago, a church couple in our basic do everything together group go liberal and become real PIA’s. Who basically wanted nothing to do with us and any conservative neighbors. I/we pulled the social plug on them shortly after they went liberal and to a different church.
A couple, tried to stay as friends, and they gave up after about a year.
In summary, when people don’t to want to be with you, and you did nothing to deserve that behavior.
Just walk away.
Life is too short to allow assholes to make it miserable.
You have been contributing on this forum far longer than I have, Laz.
I enjoy your wit and wisdom, as I’m sure others do. I think you can be assured that you have friends numbering well into the thousands, people who would have your back in an instant if you needed it.
Consider Harry and Megan- she got under his skin and weaseled her way into the Royal Family, at least for a while. Now he’s turned against his own family just to please her, and I think it’s cost him dearly, he’s just to stupid to see it.
It sounds like that’s what’s happened to your friend.
You and he were friends for 40 years.
I’ll betcha anything their “friendship” won’t last anywhere near that.
Losing friends is a constant source of pain to me and you have my sympathies.
I am very willing to be non political in my conversation as long as they are and to not push faith although I am not going to deny mine. Whether they defriend me due to politics, religion, or some other reason they never respect me enough to say. I miss them, but then again, why miss people who are so unkind.
IN re lasting 40 years
The hardest two friendships I lost were girlfriends I was very close to in elementary, jr high, and high school. We have very unique and irreplaceable memories, the three of us. We remember family, social, school and event situations that unique to us alone. I simply can’t be replaced by others, there (neither can they.) They have no reasonable reason to diss me. It is a true loss.
Is it possible that You might have a chance now with Joyce?
Doesn’t sound like you two have that much in common.
Respect the dead (who’ve ghosted you), and, move on.
💞
LOL!!! It never even crossed my mind!
Well, if I'm not a Friend, then I'm at least a Friend of a Friend, or maybe at minimum a ....., well, You know ......
I have two similar situations with decades old college friends. One was resolved by my friend’s death and the other lingers.
Both were aware and surprised and perhaps mystified by my presence on Free Republic and active conservative politics.
In both instances the wife/ex-wife was problematic. One wife is a unionized state employ RN and came hostilely out of the left wing closet. The other is a unionized left wing English Teacher.
Who said any of us were your friend? 🤪🤪🤪
I’m certainly not planning to.
Seem’s the posts on this thread are an affirmation to your acceptance and personability here.
I mostly encountered you as the hit-man.
Then I read some of your posts and you became more personable.
People like you. I have no reason not to.
Good wishes.
One Fren, checking in...
stay here, get off of facebook.
That’s all I have to offer.
Well ... there's the problem, right there.
I’ve lost a bunch of long term friendships over the last three or four years - because I was outspoken on a number of issues - which apparently made me toxic.
The first was my belief that President Trump was not only not evil - but was actually a good man, and a good President. This came up a lot because around 2016 almost everyone around me became preoccupied with hating Trump and increasingly vocal about it. I tried to brush it off at first, but there would come a point where I felt that NOT defending Trump would be cowardly. My defense of Trump came as a complete shock to many of my friends - and the shock turned into anger when I refused to recant my crazy position. It was like I was defending Hitler.
The same happened with Covid19, which I believed - and still do - was like the common cold, and should be treated accordingly. Again, most people were shocked or baffled - then angry. Some called me a moron or a danger to society.
Then there was the stolen election and Jan 6 peaceful protest. Same thing - a lot of insults, disapproval and hostility - just for saying what I believe is the truth.
The weird thing is that I always knew half my friends were Leftists - and they knew I was conservative - our friendships were formed over other common interests like music, sports, etc.. but we could argue about the economy or foreign policy without it getting heated.
Then along comes Donald Trump and everything changed: First, the Lefties I knew were Lefties got Trump derangement syndrome and just couldn’t stop uttering Trump hate speech 24/7. Second, they seemed to grow in numbers - or rather, more of them came out of the woodwork.
I used to think the Lefties were a minority, and that most normal people with a house, a family and a job would naturally be conservative. I thought most Democrat voters voted that way out of ignorance because they were lied to by the fake news. I thought if I could sit down with them I could explain how things really work, and how they are being lied to.
Boy was I wrong! It’s not ignorance it’s indoctrination. They aren’t just missing a few key facts - they have been brainwashed.
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