Since we’re all anonymous here, I’ll just throw it out: We were married when we were both 44 (we’re only six days apart). for the first ten years, it was at least once a day, and we had a fun phrase on road trips - “Do you want to pull off and scare some deer?” We scared a lot of deer, and probably a few Racoons.
But the point is it is REALLY about intimacy. There is a closeness that quite literally fuels a man’s inspiration and motivation when he is desired by his wife. And the fact that it is ONLY the two of you creates an incredible bond. If I ever cheated on her it would be like killing the golden goose, even if she never found out, because I would know.
Note, we are now almost 69 and it’s less than once a day now...
My friend said he could cheat without his wife finding out. I told him he was bound to slip up sooner or later. (Seems to me it might even be intentional.) I also told him even if she doesn’t find out he would know, and that would ruin things, anyway.
Don’t know if he did or not. They stayed together until the kids were grown. Then she got a divorce, anyway.