Who and Whomever are objective case pronouns and follow the preposition “to”. Examples:
“To whoever you please.”
“To whomever you please.”
“To whom are you speaking?”
“To who was that addressed?”
Other than that just go with the flow.
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(Sorry, everyone. Scroll past if you don’t care about grammar.)
I think you want to review your grammar rules, FRiend.
The objective case is used for the object of a verb or for the object of a preposition. The word “to” in your examples is a preposition. So the correct forms in your examples would be “whomever” and “whom.”
Correct examples:
To whom are you speaking? (”whom” as object of “to”)
Who is speaking to you? (”who” as subject of sentence, the
doer of the action)
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Not addressed to you, Yulee:
I know that there are those who think that using correct spelling and grammar is unimportant. There are those of us in the other camp who believe that we should take care in making our writing as concise and well-structured as possible because sloppy writing reflects sloppy thought.
Of course, dashing off quick comments on a forum will nearly always result in mistakes. I have had quite a few myself here.
I hope this grammar explanation helps those who are confused on this topic.
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“Who” and “whoever” are not objective case. They are subjective case. “Whom” and “whomever” are objective case. Basic English grammar. I’m a boomer and I’ve diagrammed many, many sentences in my life.