jada was perfectly capable of defending herself without violence
her response should have been: “I have alopecia, you moron”
game, set, match
As it was, I think Jada looked at Will in a way that said, "Are you going to defend me? Are you going to let Chris Rock talk to your woman like that??"
In truth a real feminist would have looked at Will and said, "Don't you dare move. I don't need your help. I can handle this." And then she could have walked up on stage herself, spoken into the microphone and said, "I have a medical condition. It's not funny. You moron." And sat down.
And Will (later) could have earned massive bonus points by saying, "I knew Jada would handle that just fine. She don't need me to defend her. That woman is strong, let me tell you."
The whole incident would have been 180 degrees different. But, since most feminists (ex. Jada) still expect men to rescue them, it went down as it did.