Posted on 02/17/2020 1:27:13 PM PST by Jewbacca
Looking for some advice dealing with a horrid little kid.
One of my younger daughters attends a non-Jewish secular STEM school in the USA. (It is about 1/4 Jewish.) She is a freshman. Very, very smart -- as in 1460 PSAT freshman smart, all high As, multilingual. GREAT athlete.
With considerable reluctance, I allowed her to participate in a program where young ladies are "presented" in society. She looked lovely and frum.
There is a young boy that has caused a bit of a trouble for her over the years. He's smart, father a bird colonel in the USAF, mother a doctor. He is not Jewish. I have a professional relationship with the father.
Said boy, about a year ago, thought it funny to draw swastikas on my daughter's school book. We blew it off.
Recently, at the above-mentioned social function, in the limo (with about 20 kids), he plugged in a rap song about how fun it is to kill Jews. (The other boys, all non-Jewish in the vehicle, strongly objected and made him turn it off.)
Mrs. Jewbacca is of the mind to blow this off and simply avoid the little s--t.
After my initial desire to beat the crap out of a 15 year old boy passed, I am left with a quandary.
Do I say anything? Specifically, do I speak to the father? If so, what do I say? I am of mixed minds, as I presume they learn this stuff at home. But his father (who very much knows I am Israeli) has never been anything but professional. And I would want to know if my kid was being a stupid s--t.
And the motive may not be antisemitism, in that, objectively speaking, my daughter is pretty (and smarter) and the kid is a bit of a fat troll.
As the mother of many daughters, I think you are misunderestimating the stupid of zoomer teen boys who have had constant access to the internet and social media since birth. And how debased pop culture is...
Lack of appropriate boundaries is the norm anymore.
"Sound like"? Who does it sound like? It sounds like you, HG, playing with your Straw Dogs as always.
Don't you have anything better to do than Troll on FR? Is this the only forum you've not yet been banned from?
If you were a large bird, you'd spend every waking moment searching for the best-cared-for, best-polished cars in your town, in order to drop a load on each. That's the best analogy I can come up with for your FR posts ... smelly, unsightly bird doots.
Jewbacca started a great, thought-provoking discussion here in his attempt to get some sound advice from fellow Freepers to a real life problem his family is facing.
There wasn't a single legitimate reason, no matter how far you stretch what you think passes for logic, to drop a Troll-posting onto his head in the middle of this thread.
Ironically, you appear to have much in common with the chubby, swastika-drawing, jew-baiter being discussed here .... namely, an obsessive desire to gain attention, negative attention or positive attention or any other kind of attention, doesn't matter which, ANY type of attention at all will suffice.
In fact, I hesitated to post this because I realize that paying any attention to your little creation will satisfy your perverse need for negative attention. But in the end, I will post it not for your benefit, but for Jewbacca's. If he's not spent much time here, he's probably not been clued in to what you really are. A Troll. Hopefully now he can ignore you and concentrate on the other 99% of Freepers on this thread who are here to try to help him.
Thankfully, we are past the most appalling years. 15 seems to be when the forebrain seems to reassert control or perhaps that’s when the boys finally accumulate enough negative feedback to get a clue.
As Mark Twain observed, everyone admires a manly man, a womanly woman and a girly girl, but nobody likes a boyly boy.
Really the most refreshing thing about the original poster’s story was that the other young men put a stop to the moron’s inappropriate behavior.
Take it from a former chubby, lonely, shy 15-year old! :-)
As to what else is going on inside his brain, I can only take educated guesses. My first thought was to post the lyrics to "I Don't Like Spiders and Snakes," but I see someone else beat me to it. Anyway, that's my best guess as well.
As to whether his conscious or sub-conscious brains, both newly warped by puberty hormones, truly considers this behavior a "good" way to attract your daughter's attention, I also would have thought that "15 is a bit old" for that.
But since it's been decades since I or my kids were that age, and since I continually am surprised to hear about new ways in which our culture has hit rock bottom only to break through it and continue on downwards, sucking in younger & younger souls, this means I will defer to the opinions of other Freepers who've posted to this thread who are in much closer contact with the current crop of 15 year olds.
On a somewhat related note....
Although this has nothing to do with boy-girl attraction, I remember a 14-year old in 8th grade who was a REAL loner. Short, chubby, very thick-lensed glasses, skin blemishes galore, didn't bathe often enough, wore dark shirts that highlighted the fact he had more dandruff than ten average kids combined, etc. He was always drawing something during every class, and not just doodles. He was a very good artist (in the same mold as Jim Carrey), but wasted his talent on swastika-themes. I felt really bad for Moti, the sole Israeli kid in our grade, that he had to put up with this, though he did make his anger known on at least one occasion in public.
The loner's Dad, who was a HS teacher in our school, wasn't at all like that, as far as I knew. So I figured it was just an attention-getter, because many people did certainly pay attention to his warped drawings!
But later on, I wondered if it wasn't deeper than that. A guidance counselor told my mother (this is back when you wouldn't be fired for sharing stuff like this) that in an effort to help him with his serious social problems by better understanding him, she asked that he draw a picture of trees. The picture was very good artistically, but it disturbed her deeply because it was entirely of dead trees with jagged broken branches.
I guess you never know for sure what goes on inside someone's soul.
Father can’t do anything if you don’t tell him - and how he reacts should let you know who he really is....
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