“That said, I doubt the Holiday Inn will provide help with lifting, toileting assistance, bathing, medications and such.”
Medicare and Visiting Angels would take care of it,
Retired home health R.N., here. Actually, Medicare will NOT pay for most of that. They’ll pay for a home health aide to come in and bathe someone who is unable or unsafe bathing himself one or two times per week, IF the person has a need for a licensed nurse to see them for a medical reason, a couple of times a month. They will NOT pay for housekeeping, medication administration (except for injections), toileting or lifting (except during the one or two times per week the bath aide is there, already.
Of course, if you can afford it, you can personally pay for an agency home health aide to come in and bathe someone every day, etc, for as many hours as you can afford. With many states having $15/hour minimum wage, an agency would probably charge anywhere from $50 - $100 an hour, for that. (They’re in the business to make a profit).
Another option is to hire someone privately, who does not work for any agency, but on his or her own. In some states, that would have to be an under the table sort of thing. In any state, to do it above board, you’d be paying into social security, etc., like any other employer.
Sorry to be a wet blanket, (no pun intended). I’m not much fun at parties, either.
You hear horror stories about strangers coming into elderly people’ homes. Valuables walk out with them. Checks and credit cards disappear. Meds get lost, etc.
Six of one, half a dozen of the other on where to live when the time comes.
I know.. I was talking about the state administered medicaid program for the indigent elderly. Once they’ve spent down all their money they basically become a ward of the state. In my mother’s case, as an Arizona resident she was eligible for ALTCS....Arizona Long Term Care System. I took care of getting her all set up and I must say it was a very well run and minimally painful process so kudos to AZ. The only hitch is finding a facility that is willing to accept the lower rates paid. The “better” places generally don’t. I was lucky with my mother because she was already in a quite decent place that did accept ALTCS residents.