Someone i met over the past few years was molested from 5 to 17.
It sickens me.
You want to take the pain away but you cannot.
So you just listen.
She cries and says she had no breasts yet, why was he doing all those things to her chest when she had no breasts yet??
SMH
And then the stories get worse.
I felt guilty for wanting to tell her “don’t tell me anymore please!! I cannot process!! I’m awake at nights!!”
But it helped/helps her to talk.
and you NEVER get used to hearing it but but if she can live with it I can listen.
Unreal. I’d expect a lot of this happens outside the USA. e can’t exactly send a swat team to Russia or eastern Europe.
But it sure seems to me like we should catch the actual producer/molester more often.
I seem to never read about it.
I was in love with a woman years ago who was sexually molested by her older sisters boyfriend when she was 12. Her parents were two violently abusive alcoholics. The anger and rage this beautiful woman had was sometimes molten. I met this woman some thirty years ago when I was in my early 30s and so was she. The abuse began when she was 12 years old at a time when no one ever talked about such things. It just wasn’t part of our culture then.
No one believed her at the time. No one could or even knew to protect her. She couldn’t stop it. I got to know her when both of us were attending AA. Some how she came to trust me and eventually we fell in love. Make a long story short her sister didn’t approve of it all and we drifted apart. Still think about her though. She had black hair and blue eyes. She was beautiful.
I knew someone years ago who was eight when a group of teenagers lured her into a house and gang raped her for hours. As far as I know she never told anyone else. It melted my mind when she talked to me about it. She never discussed it with me after that one time.
I run into her every few years. To my knowledge she never married. No kids. Still lives with her parents who are in their eighties. I don’t think she ever sought counseling. I believe her future was largely destroyed after that day.
From the time I was able to process what she told me I realized it would be possible for me to kill someone without mercy. I hope that I am never put in that circumstance.
You, dp0622, have helped her by listening, even if it has exacted a painful toll on you.
Well done.