Thank you thank you thank you!!!
It’s up to the adoptees and donor conceived persons to decide for themselves who their “real” family is. Personally, I consider both my bio parents and my adoptive parents “real”. They both had a hand in making me who and what I am. I won’t tolerate anyone disrepecting either by placing one above the other. It’s my decision, no one else’s.
What bothers me the most about the anonymous donor industry, is that mothers purposely conceive a child with the express intent of denying that child the knowledge of half his bloodline. She's decided that it doesn't or shouldn't matter to him. Or she doesn't even bother to consider it in the first place. And don't get me started on the surrogates who will do this for a man, or "men". :-(
Not a matter of the health history so much, but rather that a child is then raised by a parent who did this on purpose, and that it should be no big deal. Ordering a child to "love", by denying him half of who he is. Well maybe the child won't think about that, but... come on, humans have basic feelings.
It could be, that children of sperm donors seek out their half siblings beyond a desire to answer "Who am I, or "Whom do I look like?", but to bond with siblings who know and understand what "it" feels like, unlike parents who might allow only one approved thinking model (theirs).
Besides a literal genetic definition of real, a real family understands, loves, and bonds. Real families matter after all.
Some people are raised by genetic parents who hate and abuse them. They too desire a real family.
I think there is more of a craving for real families than society is willing to admit, so it covers it by promoting all manner of strange substitutions. It's become so complicated that nobody knows how simple it is supposed to be.
The world will change when love starts at home, and "ethics panels" won't have any reason to exist.
What a mess.