It was actually my m-i-0l’s caregiver, a close family friend to boot, who went to the support group and shared whatw she learned.
It was a TREMENDOUS help.
We were looking into one here at the time she passed.
We were at the point of considering assisted living, which she would have fought tooth and nail, but she as not safe to leave alone anymore, in large part cause she was a heavy chain smoker.
Her daytime caregiver was a saint...she is the only reason I’m still sane, and she stayed 24/7 the last few days. She explained every downturn as it came, and what would help me cope. It is very hard not to try to defend oneself, but I finally learned, and it helped to pass that on to the group.
And I was really fortunate to have my sister, in California, call 2 times every single day, and all the times I was frustrated as well. Those 2 day calls were something Mom was able to remember.