Posted on 05/29/2018 10:14:29 PM PDT by DeweyCA
Boobs just keep getting in the way...
Right? In my younger years my only male friends were gay or friends of my boyfriends. One platonic friend comes to mind because he wanted me but was too shy to admit it and we did hang out some, just as friends.
And yes, it’s awesome how you clearly are a woman’s man but so wonderfully taken, wardaddy. I think your wife is lucky. And your daughters are lucky too!
Jeremiah 17:9
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
Lord you can count on freepers to find something to scold over
I’m well aware of Satan and can just about promise I’ve seen his handiwork far more than the average freeper
I don’t desire other women....that was kind of the point
When that is not in play then it’s easy to talk to pretty women
I’m 60
Five kids
Not a great heart but I can still manage albeit with a patient wife who hasn’t forgotten how we were when she was still very young and looked like she was 17....I actually asked for her ID to be sure
I’m not some guy who throws away a 20 something year faithful marriage with a girl less than half my age
A marriage I’ve worked on btw through life’s curve balls but fidelity wasn’t one of our issues to work through and that fact and a great intimacy feel for one another will see you through the rough stuff some of which just hits you as a couple and family
I’d be single before I’d be so foolish to risk losing that over some strange
If I were single that would be different but I’m still old and know any relationship again would likely be with at least a 40year old.
Yaelle to her everlasting credit understood me ...women who are comfortable with men usually do
Being with only one girl this long was never Something I thought I could do....before I was a rascal at times although the 3 women I’ve loved I was faithful to but this time it’s actually easy
I have zero extramarital lust...she might but I dont
“Plenty of younger good looking women want sex with older men...and want to control them”
It happens when they “mistake the kindness for blindness”...
I’d like to believe that a younger good-looking woman really could fall in love with an older man, but if she thinks that man is a fool with his money and his women, she will not be in love, she’ll be “engaged”. The more these men realize this as being a possible scenario, the more those women should be getting shown the door before they ever have a chance at doing significant damage.
My church’s pastors follow the pence rule, and for good reason. It’s too easy for a false accusation to be leveled.
True dat.
I spent a lot of time in my early twenties in the friend zone. It can happen.
I have preordered Aimee Byrd’s book, because I am very interested in how she makes her case. I will not say whether I agree or disagree with her argument until I have seen it.
Regarding the Bible, St. Paul told Timothy to treat older women as mothers and younger women as sisters, “with absolute purity.” (1 Tim. 5:2) It is reasonable to assume that St. Paul considered this a reasonable instruction, that Timothy could, fortified by the Holy Spirit, do so.
I agree that, according to the info in the article — I haven’t read the book, that Byrd seems to be naive and has a flawed view of men.
It’s simple: if a man finds a woman attractive, it’s exceedingly difficult to be “just friends.”
On the other hand, I have a woman friend I find physically attractive not at all. She’s very smart, sharp, quick-witted and a wonderful person in every way. We can be friends forever.
Oh, and the “Pence rule” is the result of ages of wisdom.
Caution, wardaddy, caution. ;-)
Then there is the “challenge” thing...
Ridiculous. The writer clearly wanted to make a husband out of her male “friends” and was frustrated when that didn’t work out.
Men and women are friends all across America and it works just fine. Really a natural offshoot of how men and women so often work together without issue.
Now, if one of the two has wishes or intentions for more than friendship in the relationship, that will become problematic. But it should be pretty obvious that that is not necessarily always the case.
And those in a monogamous relationship with someone else should keep their “friendships” doubly limited in scope out of consideration for their partner. But that should be obvious.
The thing that should drive most relationships is the fear of reaching the time when you need a caregiver, and who that caregiver could be. This usually happens after sex. Years after.
To answer your question, in a word: YES.
I can only be friends with fat and ugly chicks. Biology and chemistry override my sense of decency.
It’s simple when you aren’t thinking about sex but just listening to them and admiring their awesomeness respectfully.
Had a buddy who called this the "no pressure" scenario. You have no desire to ask the girl out so you're under "no pressure" to impress her. So you just act yourself.
If you were trying to impress her all of a sudden you couldn't string together three words!
Add a woman in any group starts the catty behavior. Dr. Laura stop her show once and stated that women create 95% of all the problems in families. If you create the problems, it is hard to have relationships.
Dear Mrs. Web says:
...there are no real friends in former lovers - just one wounded person and one guilty one.
http://dearmrsweb.com/Mrs%20Websters.htm
And why do they have a "thing" for older men? Primarily financial stability.
I'm 55, been on the dating scene again for the last 18 months and I'm not sure, but I think I've pretty much seen it all. I'm a pretty average looking guy and I've been hit on by women as young as 37. The last one being a 45 year old woman from China who's been here since she was 15 and owns three of her own businesses. She's financially stable herself, an attractive woman and honestly could probably have about anyone she wants.
So why do these women like older men? I'm thinking it's because we're financially set. One other factor does come into play: there are more available women then there are men. I know there are quite a few widow's starting in the early to mid 40's through their 60's as well. Competition for quality men here is pretty high.
By the way, no I wouldn't date the 37 year old. I have a rule: anyone who's young enough to be my daughter I just won't give a second look to and I'm having a difficult time reconciling dating a 45 year old at my age.
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