[mountainfolk]

I am always sympathetic to those who suffer the loss of a loved one. Addiction to drugs and other substance abuse is a choice a person makes which they most likely know will sooner than later affect their lives and those of many others in a very bad way. It is a selfish addiction that ruins families and sets a lethal example for not only their own children but to other vulnerable people. People should protect themselves and families from these abusers, family or not, and keep them away from infecting anybody you care about. Sorry. That is the way I see it.

[OneVike]

{{{"People should protect themselves and families from these abusers, family or not, and keep them away from infecting anybody you care about. Sorry. That is the way I see it."}}}

I used to help my son out financially when he needed help. When I learned he was strung out and the money was used for their fix and or to get them bailed out of jail, I stopped.

I sent money to his kids, then learned he lost the kids and he used the money meant for them.

Turned out his mother-in-law had the children. Him and his wife would then threaten her for the money.

So I had to stop sending moey to his mother-in-law.

Until the mother-in-law calls the authorities on them I cannot and will not finance their suicide. You are correct though, the only way to help them is to not do so financially. And you must not even give them a place to stay. I believe in tough love, not enabling love.