I said, ‘Bad Moms, too.’ Let ‘er rip...
Not everyone is blessed with a good Mom. We either rise above it or it ruins us.
The choice is STILL ours. ((Gratia))
I hope you understand: as deep as the feelings run when the good things are spoken, the feelings run just as deep with the bad.
Hearing folks say “buck up” or “get therapy” - - as kindly as that advice is meant - - is not what other folks want to hear or NEED to hear.
And there is really nothing usefully to be conveyed in publicly describing the deeply negative experiences one has had.
More generally, our present day culture of publishing dreadful news about a third party family member or friend (sickness, disease, tragedy, etc) is - - and this is strictly my personal reaction - - the type of spotlight which puzzles me.