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To: little jeremiah; PMAS

Agree with lj.

If you’ve ever known any abused women, think about them. They often appear happy and normal. In many cases, no one suspected for a long, long time. Not all abuse leaves bruises or scars. Also, there are complex reasons a woman does not leave an abuser. Often he does “nice” things - brings flowers, gifts, etc. Or she can be dependent (financially or otherwise) on the abuser.

A child who is a victim is totally dependent on adults, so a child has far less ability to leave or get help. When you think about the adult women who are unable to escape, it’s a lot easier to understand how helpless a child would be.

An abuser doesn’t abuse 24/7. (Maybe some do, but most have other things they do. Just like you don’t indulge in your hobbies 24/7.) So the victim may have periods - sometimes even long periods - of “normalcy”.

The bringing of gifts or the periods of “normalcy” are needed for the victim to recover. It is like a cat playing with a mouse. If he kills the mouse, the game is over and he has to find a new one. (Yes, that happens.) But usually it is easier or more convenient to abuse a victim, then let it recover a bit, or let it go and then recapture it. Abusers usually “toy” with their victims and push them just so far, then pull back before inflicting permanent damage.


592 posted on 04/27/2018 12:34:34 PM PDT by generally ( Don't be stupid. We have politicians for that.)
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To: generally

Abuse victims are often groomed to become attached to their abuser, for a long time before being molested.


604 posted on 04/27/2018 12:40:38 PM PDT by little jeremiah (Half the truth is often a great lie. B. Franklin)
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