Do not throw RAD in with alcoholism. You obviously are not an alcoholic. You want to philosophize....that’s fine but the individual who is alcoholic (no matter who the parents are) has their own path to walk
Neither of us have ever met an alcoholic without serious RAD. That would be over a span of 50+ years and more than 5,000 people.
BOTH are hard facts full of measurable features, factors, pain, reality.
It's hard to understand what you are calling mere 'philosophizing.'
Our comments arise--in part--out of working a year at an alcohol treatment facility in an internship--in part to hold intense groups with an AA co-leader. The facility was founded by the retired head who ran the Navy's alcohol treatment center--having founded that, if my housemate recalls correctly.
Certainly we have seen many hundreds of alcoholics in our lifetimes.
The part RAD plays in ALL addictions is well known. We don't understand your aversion to those facts.