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57 Things I Need You to Stop Doing to the Women You Work With
Esquire ^ | October 16, 2017 | Kaitlin Menza

Posted on 10/18/2017 3:45:40 AM PDT by C19fan

A female friend of mine went on a foreign business trip early in her career with two colleagues who were both male, married, and senior to her at the company. After dinner with a client, hours after she had retired to her room, around 1 a.m., one of her coworkers knocked on her hotel door and asked if she would come out for a drink. She declined. After another hour, around 2 a.m., the other coworker knocked on her door. When she opened it a crack, he tried to push his way into her room. She fought him off. All three still work together.

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To: central_va
The rules for dating and work are different.

If you act the same way in both places you have a problem.

I would never date you because I am married. So my rule is simple, don't touch me.

101 posted on 10/18/2017 6:25:22 AM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Not a Romantic, not a hero worshiper and stop trying to tug my heartstrings. It tickles! (pink bow))
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear

You wear make up to look better. Why? because it has advantages and assuages the ego whether you admit it or not. Same with cloths.


102 posted on 10/18/2017 6:25:50 AM PDT by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear

Not every female is married. Not all married people are happy. Sad truth.


103 posted on 10/18/2017 6:26:45 AM PDT by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: cincinnati65

That is an excellent point. It’s okay for them to us that they want to f***, but we can’t tell them.


104 posted on 10/18/2017 6:29:35 AM PDT by rbg81 (Truth is stranger than fiction)
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To: central_va
Actually, I don't wear makeup.

You wear clothes.

Guys who work in all guy offices used to be well groomed. It was the civilized thing to do.

Gal who work in all girl offices still come in well groomed. It is the civilized thing to do.

It is amazing how some guys assume.

105 posted on 10/18/2017 6:31:09 AM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Not a Romantic, not a hero worshiper and stop trying to tug my heartstrings. It tickles! (pink bow))
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To: C19fan
Amazing. Feminists are always crying out for equality in the workplace but at the same time, they want to portray themselves as delicate and fragile creatures that men need to tip-toe around.

I have a message for the woman who wrote this article: Wrapping yourself in the mantle of victim-hood is not the path to equality in the workplace! Instead, this woman has advertised to the world the fact that she is an inferior person who must be protected by a long list of "do's" and "don't".

If a man ever deigned to put out to his co-workers a list of "57 things that should never be done to him" he'd be ridiculed and laughed right out of the workplace.

Fortunately, this is not how most women in the workplace really are. I've worked with women my entire career and I'm glad to say that delicate snowflakes like this are in the minority. The snowflakes are easy to spot however and I do tip-toe around them. They generally don't last very long.

106 posted on 10/18/2017 6:34:55 AM PDT by SamAdams76
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To: central_va
So you put the moves on every female even the married ones because you might come across a co-worker who is unhappy in her marriage.

That is very sad.

107 posted on 10/18/2017 6:35:01 AM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Not a Romantic, not a hero worshiper and stop trying to tug my heartstrings. It tickles! (pink bow))
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To: TexasFreeper2009

Why are you yelling? You’re the one making it complicated, lady.


108 posted on 10/18/2017 6:39:41 AM PDT by subterfuge (RIP T.P.)
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To: C19fan

Tip more than a dollar at a time?

Seriously, it takes a liberal woman to be so long winded and stupid to think anyone is going to remember 57 rules.


109 posted on 10/18/2017 6:40:03 AM PDT by CodeToad (CWII is coming. Arm Up! They Are!)
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear

No, I wasn’t talking about me. I was using an example that women DON’T signal. This makes SOME guys very bold. We love the unknown.


110 posted on 10/18/2017 6:42:33 AM PDT by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: A_perfect_lady

Oh, thanks for your thoughtful rebuke of my heartfelt post, toots.

You should change your nic.


111 posted on 10/18/2017 6:42:42 AM PDT by subterfuge (RIP T.P.)
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To: central_va

You come on to women who are not responding to your come-ons? Wow. Do you use the lurch, grab and sloppy wet kiss method?


112 posted on 10/18/2017 7:08:49 AM PDT by miss marmelstein
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To: A_perfect_lady

There are compensations to growing older!


113 posted on 10/18/2017 7:11:22 AM PDT by miss marmelstein
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To: miss marmelstein
You come on to women who are not responding to your come-ons?

A physical come on is different. There is no way to know the outcome if you don't try. There is a name for guys that don't take risks, losers. If she rejects you then fine back off and find someone else. Plenty of fish in the sea. That is how the game is played.

Guys that don't back off are creeps and need to be kneed in the balls.

114 posted on 10/18/2017 7:16:00 AM PDT by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: A_perfect_lady

I had to tell my female coworkers and employees, repeatedly, that I do not want to here about their underwear, their dating life, or if the hot guy salesmen was in. One started asking me about choices in non latex undergarments (with her husband IN THE ROOM). I guess that is a chemical question, but not an easy one to discuss.

It was rather graphic at times.

I finally stopped one when I told her that if she got to talk like that, I will give her a play by play of my baby’s bowl movements. Daily.

HR was called, and she had to try to compose herself through the meeting. Got to the point were no one could stop laughing.

My point is that the crude talk comes from both sides these days.


115 posted on 10/18/2017 7:18:54 AM PDT by redgolum
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To: central_va

Plenty of fish in the sea? Aren’t you one of the regulars here who decry that most American women are fat, lazy gold-diggers and not worth the bother? May have you mixed up with the others who gather here like Bruce J. Friedman’s Lonely Guy.


116 posted on 10/18/2017 7:19:07 AM PDT by miss marmelstein
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To: miss marmelstein

Who says I like American women?


117 posted on 10/18/2017 7:20:55 AM PDT by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: subterfuge

One gal that worked for me had a dye job disaster.

It came out candy apple red. Bright red.

I tried for half the day to not say anything till she looked me in the eye and said “Red, I SCREWED UP! You can look at my hair. You can laugh. And my husband is not happy.”

It takes a rather monumental event for me to notice any woman’s hair except for my wife’s.


118 posted on 10/18/2017 7:21:46 AM PDT by redgolum
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To: C19fan
I remember the teacup storm from the SCANDALIZED LEFTist MSM when the long time rule of Vice President Pence was revealed, just last March, of never dining alone with a solitary woman unless it was his wife. Oh, the huge manatee of outrage that provoked from the reliable vaporizers. Such MSM feminist stalwarts as Cosmo and the New Yorker made great criticisms of how that denied young females the opportunity for mentoring and professional growth etc.

I wonder now, with the Harvey affairs (note the plural) and the 'advancement' that such one-on-one 'mentoring' allegedly and apparently provided, would be the hindsight of these authors OR are they, like the Project Veritas NYTimes reveal, simply and reflexively ANTI everything not MSM Left!

119 posted on 10/18/2017 7:24:54 AM PDT by SES1066 (Happiness is a depressed Washington, DC housing market!)
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To: TexasFreeper2009
I think Weinstein, Timberlake, and "Dave" all have a similar intention, though they may not employ the same tactics. The difference is in how women respond to each of them. Men have to learn this early, or they are in for a lifetime of problems.

The "57 Things" are basically a list made by a little girl telling the world "I don't want any man to show any interest in me unless I decide he's good enough, first!" That is, of course, not the way the world works - and women have to learn this early, or they are also in for a lifetime of problems.

Wearing a "Don't You EVER Talk to Me!" lapel pin to work would be an easier solution. :)

I never had any of these situations come up in the offices I worked in and I don't have them in my own company, today. It helps a lot to hire carefully and hire grown-ups, which is admittedly tougher for big companies with the Feds breathing down their necks. The "57 Things" never even occur if you do.

120 posted on 10/18/2017 7:28:24 AM PDT by Mr. Jeeves ([CTRL]-[GALT]-[DELETE])
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