I agree, and it is true that there is a downside to using the misfortune of an innocent as weapon against an enemy.
I simply wish some of them would speak out. I have to say, when I had a similar opportunity to do so later in my life...I seized it and did so.
It was a high point in my life for me, not because I was able to help nail someone, but that I was able to confront it and them, and in my heart, forgive that person as black as they may have been. Seeing that person in a courtroom as a broken, pathetic excuse for a human being removed my hate, and left me feeling simply that the life of that person was a pathetic waste of a glorious thing we all have the opportunity for...and that is a happy life.
I didn’t know that I had the capability to do that, and I learned something about myself and the value of forgiveness, something I have always remembered.
It is important to note that forgiveness doesn’t mean someone shouldn’t pay for what they have done. It means that you don’t have to carry it with you for the rest of your life as toxic cargo.