If I'm gonna be mad at somebody, I think I'll aim my ire at the AWOL daddy, Mr. I. M. Outtahere. The male of the species is supposed to protect the Little Lady and the younglings. That's why God made men so big and strong. Testosterone: it's there for a reason.
While I do understand your thought on the male, the proliferation of the females searching for one night stands to gain that magnificent [by perception only] ability to get more freedom like men, leaves men pretty much out of the picture.
She may not know a single thing about the baby daddy.
The guy may live in Colorado, have been in Florida for only one night, and may not even have his name still in that woman’s empty head.
Of course this is only a possibility, much like the one you raised to put the blame on the man.